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When did you put baby in own room?

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NobbyD · 13/05/2013 21:41

Just wanted to check what others have done re putting baby in own room.

Ds2 is now 8 weeks and am experimenting tonight with him in his own room. I know recommendation is 6months hence me asking you all what you did.

When I had ds1 we lived in 1 bed house til he was 18months and he was terrible sleeper and even worse when he got own room in new house as was used to us so didn't want same thing happening with ds2 but is this too early??

Plus am doing it to get dh back in bed as he currently sleeps on sofa to avoid the noisy night time feeds so thought if I do them in ds2 room he won't be so disturbed.

Guess I'm looking for reassurance that its ok!

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lilystem · 14/05/2013 16:21

My pfb ds is 13 wks and has been in his own room since 10 wks. He sleeps through from 9-5.

Seb101 · 14/05/2013 17:20

My baby in own room from 2 weeks! We all sleep better that way. We have moment monitor: so no sids concern. She slept through the night from 8 weeks, 7-7, with a dream feed for a while. She's always been a brilliant sleeper, and I attribute a lot of this to being undistrubed in her room. Please don't feel guilty about putting your baby in own room. Go buy a movement monitor and enjoy having your room back!

Loubyloulou88 · 14/05/2013 20:01

Ds went into his own room at 11 weeks due to growing out of his Moses basket and we have no room for his cot bed in our bedroom. We have his monitor on and seems to work well. Just do what feels right to you.

LedaOfSparta · 14/05/2013 20:07

Last week at 8 months.

I miss her snuffly fatness next to me but she is sleeping better.

SaigonSaigon · 14/05/2013 20:07

6 weeks as I was exhausted and every single noise and grunt (and there was a lot of noise) from the little chap woke me. I do attribute it to how he became a good sleeper in general, but really, I don't know it's because of that. You just have to do what's right for you.

TheSurgeonsMate · 14/05/2013 20:08

Four months, but I didn't appreciate at that point the thinking behind the SIDS guidelines - that the baby ought to have a presence in the room to hep it regulate its sleep. So if I had the time over, I'd wait, and I'd also put more effort into having the baby in the same room as me for naps.

DH slept with me and when she was in with us, I would take her out of the room for feeds. I tried feeding quietly in our room, but it suited me better to just carry her out and do it noisily in another room.

stargirl1701 · 14/05/2013 20:10

27 weeks. She never slept, including naps, in a different room from a parent until 26 weeks.

knackeredmother · 14/05/2013 20:50

Dd at 2 years old when ds came along (along with dh). Ds still in with me at 3 and a half. Co sleeping attachment parenting and proud! It's took me a long time to say that as there is so much pressure to move dc into their own rooms and little cultural support for those parents and children that want to hang on a bit longer.

NobbyD · 14/05/2013 21:10

Thank you everyone who has commented. I feel relieved there are others out there who did early own room too but also guilty and confused over those who talk sids risk factors.

Did all last night with ds2 in own room. He slept much the same as if he was in with me (2 night feeds, one quick and down at 12 and then one longer drawn out feed with poo to boot at 3.30).

I however did not sleep so well through fear, anxiety, guilt etc etc! So I guess tonight I am choosing whether I want to sleep with dh back or ds2!

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Hadassah · 14/05/2013 21:12

From the outset, aged 1 day, with no monitors or anything like that.

Lawabidingmama · 14/05/2013 21:17

DD1 6 months DD2 7/8 months I never understand why people do it earlier.

lizabeth0607 · 19/05/2013 19:47

My daughter went into her own room at 6 months, wouldn't have done it any earlier as I was worried sick about SIDS and couldn't afford a really flash expensive monitor.

ENSMUM · 19/05/2013 20:00

DD at just over 6 months. DS is now 6.5 m and still in our room, but only because we haven't yet sorted a room for him to move to! Started letting him nap on own and go to bed before us around 5 months. Def wouldn't have them out of our room overnight before 6 months.

DS does seem to sleep better before we come to bed, but I think them going into deeper sleep when on own is the reason for the aids guidance and just couldn't bring myself to risk it, despite being desperate for more sleep!

ENSMUM · 19/05/2013 20:04

Also, as far as I understand it, although not sure where the data is, research has shown no evidence of movement monitors reducing SIDS risk. Think they are a marketing ploy to deplore expensive equipment to concerned parents, playing on their anxiety.

Ps phone changed SIDS to aids in my post above. Pretty sure aids isn't caught by sleeping alone!

frissonpink · 19/05/2013 20:09

8 weeks.

Thurlow · 19/05/2013 20:10

About 7 or 8 weeks. Everyone was struggling to sleep well, so we experimented.

Re SIDS guidelines all you can do is read all the guidance that is out there about sleeping near someone, sleeping on their back, cool rooms etc and decide where you stand on the various risk factors. They are guidelines, not laws, after all, and you make your own informed decision as you do with all other aspects of raising and caring for your child.

You won't be the first mum to do it, definitely not. But it isn't a popular decision - interestingly, it is much more criticised here on MN than I've found it is in RL.

ENSMUM · 19/05/2013 20:16

I would never openly criticize others parenting decisions in real life, to the extent that I tend to keep quiet about my own if I know they are different to avoid offence.
Not that I want to ctitisize on here either, but I will explain my reasoning for my choice.
Is this why people feel there is more criticism on here than in RL?

SauvignonBlanche · 19/05/2013 20:16

6 months, wasn't willing to take a risk.

Thurlow · 19/05/2013 20:23

Personally I find some threads on MN much more critical than a RL conversation would be. Not this one, I was just sharing a general opinion. IME, moving a baby in to their own room before 6 months is in the same category as chosing to formula feed before birth, parenting decisions which are sometimes extremely criticised on here.

ENSMUM · 19/05/2013 20:35

Haha, now that is one I actually did discuss in RL recently, albeit with a friend with same view as me. Would be a bit off topic to go into it here now though

Hobblethwaite · 19/05/2013 20:42

17 months and still in with me, I have the cot attached to our bed with one side off. Can't imagine moving her just yet.

We all have our space and sleep really well. Nothing nicer than waking up to my dd.

Justneedhelp · 19/05/2013 23:01

I put my daughter into her own room at 20weeks, which was the time I stooped breast feeding due to a lack of milk as well as her going from Moses basket to cot.

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Tubemole1 · 19/05/2013 23:34

Six months, but really 2 months because she was 8 weeks early.

She kept waking us up, we kept waking her up, so we gave up and she went in her moses basket on the floor of her room. We had a baby monitor with a low volume in our room in case. At seven months, she started sleeping thru!!

We were well aware of SIDS advice as it was rammed down r throats whilst baby was in SCBU, but really, it is down to the family and what they works for them. It really is trial and error.

Tubemole1 · 19/05/2013 23:38

Doh! I meant six months but really four months. can't count

fortyplus · 19/05/2013 23:41

The guidance is 6 months. Very few babies die of cot death but I was a paranoid mum not prepared to face the 'what ifs' if anything happened - I couldn't have forgiven myself

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