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would you give rescue remedy to an 8 year old?

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duke · 11/11/2012 22:04

My ds 8 has developed a going to sleep problem. He's always been good at going to bed and usually reads himself to sleep. But just recently he's been crying and saying he can't sleep because he's crying. I've gone through all the usual questions checking he's ok at school/friends/home etc he says he really doesn't know why he's crying. I think he's getting himself in a twist about going to sleep. I have used myself rescue remedy night spray and found it helped me and wondered whether to try it for him. Am I mad to even consider this??? Feel like he needs something to break the habit.

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Joooles99 · 17/08/2017 22:59

I know this is an ver old thread but I wonder if the op will get an alert to this message.

Similar sleep problems here with an 8 year old....how did the rr work in the long run?? Xx

duke · 13/11/2012 22:29

Thanks for all your help and advice, I really appreciate it. Tonight he had warm drink and story then one drop of rescue remedy, which called sleep medicine and for the first time in over a week hasn't cried and gone to sleep. Think I'm going to carry on with RR but only if he asks for it and see how it goes.

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elfycat · 13/11/2012 19:15

I'm a bach flower practitioner and you can give rescue remedy to children just fine. I've been giving my kids the stuff from 6 months. Maybe it just makes you feel better as a placebo (though obviously I don't believe that) but if you're calmer and your DS feels better because of it then it's still a winner.

My background is 20 years in nursing but I have an interest in all kinds of health care and am open to anything that works IMO bach remedies including rescue remedy do work

If you have any specific questions please pm me.

LynetteScavo · 13/11/2012 19:15

Maybe some lavender oil too?

I spray a bit in the bedroom, and tell the DC it's "magic sleepy stray".

Behind their backs DH calls it the "calm the fuck down spray".

TwoCrazyKids · 13/11/2012 19:09

You can get rescue remedy for kids :)

GrimmaTheNome · 13/11/2012 18:29

Good - glad it broke the cycle. Sometimes we need these little props - the plain water anti-monster spray for under small children's beds for instance. And I would think better RR than the pharmaceutically active alternatives some resort to though using as placebos, such as calpol.

duke · 13/11/2012 18:11

I've spoken to school today she said he has been absolutely fine, working hard, no problems at school. So that has put my mind at rest. Gave him the rescue remedy after the second bout of tears and he feel asleep DS 6 came in crying, jumping on the band wagon and said I can't sleep either can I have some, I said no go to bed he did and went to sleep. This am ds said the horlicks and medicine worked, let's see how tonight goes.

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bealos · 13/11/2012 12:16

I also have to sit with my ds1 (7) til he goes to sleep. He doesn't normally take long and sometimes I find it frustrating, but he'll generally go to sleep quicker than if I leave the room, when it becomes a battle.

I've found comic type books he can read himself in bed are great for leaving him alone though - TinTin is ace! And then I promise to come and check on him in 5-10 minutes and by the time I come back he's fallen asleep on his book!

bealos · 13/11/2012 12:14

Unless, duke it's a "pretend' Rescue Remedy dropper thing... I mean, kids have teddies, comforters, all sorts to get them to sleep.

poozlepants · 13/11/2012 09:12

Get him a kids hypnotherapy cd to listen to.
I use a free one I downloaded onto my phone and after I sniggered a bit at his annoying voice I found it really good. There are kids ones about. My sister had one for her boy who was having the same problem at 8 or so. He listened to it everynight for a week or so and then was fine and he just put it on himself if he was having trouble.

seeker · 13/11/2012 09:06

Duke- what happens if you sit with him? I had to sit with my dd for a while when she was 7ish. I just sat qnd read my book and by the time I'd finished my glass of wine cup of tea she was asleep. Have you tried that?

duke · 12/11/2012 20:58

I'm in the room next door. That's what I am worried about, him thinking he needs it, I just feel he needs something to break the habit, he's turned it in to a 'thing' He said tonight its started again I can't sleep. I said you don't have to go to sleep just relax and think of a 100 nice things. If he was a girl I might think it was hormones do you think that's what it could be?

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bealos · 12/11/2012 20:34

Yes, hard if they become dependent on it. I've only used Rescue Remedy for injuries....

seeker · 12/11/2012 20:24

It can't possibly do any harm- what with it having no active ingredients. But would be very wary of getting a young child dependent on this sort of "prop". Have you tried story tapes? Or sitting with him while he goes to sleep? Or if you don't want to do that, pottering about upstairs cleaning the bathroom or folding sheets or just sitting and reading at the top of the stairs. Anything to make him feel completely safe and secure.

shrimponastick · 12/11/2012 20:24

I wouldn't.

What if he becomes so used to having the Rescue Remedy he won't sleep without it, in future.

GrimmaTheNome · 12/11/2012 20:19

Hope it (or something) works. Poor lad - poor you.

duke · 12/11/2012 20:16

Tonight I have done no telly after tea, warm horlicks, cuddles, stories and in to bed I can hear the first starts of tears already. Going in with the rescue remedy....

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bealos · 12/11/2012 14:33

I've given it to my ds since he was 3... It's booze really. A few drops of booze.

DameEnidsOrange · 12/11/2012 14:18

DS' paed recommended it to help him when he was 5 (ASD so has sleep issues)

I give it to 8yo DD too now as she struggles to sleep

Trills · 12/11/2012 14:14

Plus an 8 yr old is definitely old enough to understand that being given something to eat or smell or put on skin is "medicine" and so they shouldfeel better.

GrimmaTheNome · 12/11/2012 12:09

Placebo works on children and animals - they are calmer if their parents/carers/owners are calmer.

yup, placebo by proxy.

Rescue remedy smells nice and wont harm him; something like lavendar aromatherapy might help too (that conceivably actually does something even). 'This is something that will help, I'm not alone with my getting to sleep problem'. That sort of thing. Good luck!

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Trills · 12/11/2012 11:46

Placebo works on children and animals - they are calmer if their parents/carers/owners are calmer.

GrimmaTheNome · 12/11/2012 11:40

Its probably OK so long as when he's old enough, you make sure he understands the placebo effect.

ZuleikaD · 12/11/2012 11:32

A vet telling an owner to give it to a cat is far more likely to be for the owner's peace of mind than actually doing anything for the cat.

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