Anyone else married to a copper and having this problem

[Debs3013]

Okay our first baby and we're pretty much agreed on name if we have a girl but man am I hitting a brick wall with boys names!

Here's how the conversation goes..... me 'how about (insert name)?' him 'drug dealer' me 'oh my okay what about....' him 'shoplifter' and so it goes on.

I also find it ironic that all the names I like are biblical - the Isaacs, Gabriels etc. but apparently all very popular in the criminal underworld!

Wonder if there is any name I can come up with that he hasn't arrested!

[ShakinScarecrow]

I work with young offenders in SE London and all the girls are called Jade, Paige and Courtney. Most of the boys are called Alfie, Charlie, Ronnie, Reggie etc.
Yet I see these 'barrow-boy' names are increasingly popular, especially on Mumsnet. Not so much the girls ones though!

[MentalFloss]

My brother is a secondary school teacher and when my sister in law was trying to name their twins these names got turned down:

Florence "has a different boy every week"
Ellie "the quiet one who has a secret drug problem"
Jake "the one who is determined to fail the exam"
Charlie "the one who has been pulled out of public school all of a sudden and has found himself at the local comp"
Lauren "the queen bee of the classroom who everyone secretly hates"

She despaired and tried to go for names he had never taught....

[jenga079]

Hahah, yes, I'm a teacher. We have the same problem. There are just too many associations with naughty kids.

[thereisalightanditnevergoesout]

We had the same thing - but my DH works for Probation. So many names were deemed unusable because of his 'clients'.

[TitianTinselTemptress]

Bunty

[BuntyPenfold]

How about Bobby for a boy?
Or Bill?

[Debs3013]

Yes they do or they apply really daft nicknames. I swear I don't know the real names of most of his colleagues!

[takethatlady]

Ah pamelat your Ella will be a beacon of social success, I'm sure :)

I try to point this out to DH ... there's no correlation between the kids at school and our baby, but to no avail! I also try to tell him that once the baby is born and named that name will belong to it and it won't matter who else shares his/her name. He sort of agrees, but some names (not Ella!) have been forever ruined!

To be fair, Claire/Clare has been ruined for me, despite being a perfectly lovely name - there were no less than four in my class at secondary school and my crazy old boss was called Clare too. So I guess we all have it!

[wigglesrock]

Yes, my husband is a policeman and they feckin' shorten everything, why say the actual word when they can use 100 acroynms, everyone is called Steve, Mike, Jess, Bill (no pun intended), Will, etc. Drives me mad, husband has name that is shortened quite a lot, in 20 years of knowing him, I have never shortened it, neither has his mother. Two weeks in the job and he was known as ...........ie!!

[pamelat]

takethat oh no I have an Ella, she is only 3 but I hope not bullied in later life!!

I was very shocked to find out that "Harry" is a naughty boys name, well at my MIL's private school

[agirlcalledvicky]

DH works with young offenders so loads of names were off the list, Joshua was especially popular amounst the naughty boys for some reason. I am a vet so more potential names were struck off (eg Stanley the dog that constantly had his willy stuck out etc etc). A nightmare!

[takethatlady]

Oh yes, you've just reminded me - my granddad's name was Sidney and we both had about a month of really liking Sid for a boy (we have no boy names). Then I told my friend who manages a maximum security men's prison which takes a lot of travellers (due to the area it's in). She said that Sidney is a popular name among the travelling community and that she works with a lot of Sidneys in prison. Also Frank (another name we quite liked).

Not sure it's put me off, but if we went for this name every time I saw her I'd think of it!

[NorbertDentressangle]

I had the same problem as I've always worked with children and families within SS/Child Protection/Young Offenders etc so the majority of names were a no-no.

[shouldnotbehere]

I have one grandparent who is a Gypsy. He married a gorjer (non-gypsy) and lives in a house, but various family members are travellers.

Some of them have criminal records, and on this side of my family they all have biblical names, there is an Eli (Elijah), Michael, Amos, and Danny (Daniel) to name just a few.

[takethatlady]

at showofhands

[takethatlady]

Yep, DH is a teacher:


Megan - bully

Ella - bullied

Charlie - ex-public school-boy now in comprehensive sixth form and got a chip on his shoulder about it. Frequent run-ins with teaching staff.

Jeremy - had a crush on DH at his last school. You can NOT name your child after a schoolboy with a crush on his teacher

Even the names of good students get ruled out because DH will be reminded of them and it will be weird.

Then there are the names DH likes, which are all either bonkers or are cat and dog names. Some of them are the names of his cats and dogs from childhood!

So we're stuck :)

[NoCarpForMe]

I'm weeping Show, weeping. That's a terrible story, the poor sergeant. How does he smell?

[piprabbit]

Give him the baby name book and tell him to have a think.

How about Endeavour?

[ShowOfHands]

Carp you wouldn't say it was brilliant if you'd seen the fall out. You see they didn't notice at first. It was curled up asleep in her hands. They dismissed it as an ornate hand muff. Until it bit off the nose of one of the sergeants. It was a terrible day.

And if you're laughing, you're a cruel and heartless person.

Noses don't grow back Carp.

[Blatherskite]

I had the same problem and DH is a computer geek! Mum and DSis are both teachers though and always knew some little urchin with the name I liked!

[NoCarpForMe]

"Persephone- drunk in charge of a ferret"
:o brilliant!

[ragged]

DS has the same name (first and last name) as a copper that was shot and killed (loads of media coverage 7 years ago).

Talk about a bad omen, but it's still a good name, iyswim. As long as the baby won't share the first and last names of any of his regulars, what's it matter? Does he intend to tell his regulars what his children are called?

[ShowOfHands]

Deirdre- singing and dancing in public

Persephone- drunk in charge of a ferret

John- bawdy

HTH

[Hullygully]

Tell us the criminal names and what crimes they go with.

[Debs3013]

Ha ha good point!