11 days ago I gave birth to my son, I spent two days in hospital afterwards due to having an emergency c section, while in hospital I felt nervous being a first time mum but happy, since coming home I've been feeling steadily worse everyday, from just being tearful to desperately wanting to give up my baby for adoption and even pleading with my husband to let me give up the baby, I feel almost no connection to my son at all and I've been feeling like I can't do this and that I don't want to be a mother now, my husband and parents have gotten involved and arranged for me to see my GP who prescribed me antidepressants, I know they can take weeks to fully work but at the minute I can't stop thinking about how I desperately just want to give my baby up, despite it being a planned pregnancy and making the decision to become parents, I felt good and excited during pregnancy and now so suddenly I feel the worst I've ever felt to the point of just wanting to stay in bed, my husband is doing most of the caring for the baby and my parents and are helping out, my husband keeps reassuring me that giving him up is not the best thing and I'd thank him for not letting me do that in a few months, but right now this is how I feel, can anyone give me advice/reassurance on this?
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Cocoalover · 25/10/2023 11:50
This is pnd. I had it when my son was born, and I didn't feel love for him, but I cared in some ways and wished him so harm, if someone had offered to take him I would have likely said yes. The feelings will go away, I promise. You just need a lot of support around you. Don't beat yourself up for feeling the way you do. You can't help it, be kind to yourself, the feelings will pass. You will feel that love ❤️
Whataretalkingabout · 25/10/2023 12:13
Love is something which grows. We don't turn into natural loving mothers overnight. It takes time and effort.
You are probably very afraid of not being good enough and feel overwhelmed. This is perfectly normal. It happens to alot of new mothers.
Get as much help as possible. Don't isolate yourself . See your GP. Try to go outside everyday for a short walk, this will be good for your mental health as well as physical.
Be good to and patient with yourself! Becoming a mother is a like a brand new job you were never trained for and suddenly you are the CEO!
Good luck and much happiness. One day you will look back at this time and smile at the brand new mother you were. ;)
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