My alcoholic ex bounces from drunk to sober every month or two. When she's sober she sees the DCs once a week (after passing a breathalyser test - this was a Social Services requirement although SS aren't involved any more), and phones them every day. When she's drinking she drops out of contact for days, weeks, sometimes months.
She was supposed to be seeing the DCs today. Last night she phoned up to speak to DCs (after not speaking to them for a week and missing last week's contact day). She promised the kids she'd see them today and acted all appalled when I confirmed with her that she would actually make it. She then tried to argue that she didn't need to have the breath-test any more as there was no way that she would fail it as, of course, she wasn't drinking I reminded her that no breath-test, no contact, and after a bit more histrionics she put the phone down.
This morning she phoned up to say that she not only failed the breath test but was over the drink-drive limit so she wouldn't be seeing the kids. So my kids are disappointed and fed-up, I've got to change plans to make sure that I can look after them today, and I'm still expecting yet another letter from her solicitor demanding more contact.
She's a pathetic, selfish, tawdry, unreliable, abusive drunk and I am so fucked off that her selfishness is still affecting my children so much and still having such an impact on my life. It's been like this for two years, ever since SS said that my kids should live with me. And yet I still hear the same old excuses, the same lies, the same promises that she hasn't got any capability of keeping, and the same threats and demands from her solicitor.
I wish she'd just sod off and blight someone else's life. The way she drifts in and out of my kids' lives is, I'm sure, doing them more damage than if she just buggered off for good. The uncertainty is really not doing them any favours at all.
So, AIBU in wishing she'd just get lost? I know she's my DC's mum but, honestly, what kind of a parent is it that prefers to get pissed than to see their children?
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To wish my alcoholic ex would just sod off for good?
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Snorbs · 27/07/2009 12:23
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