Well yes I am, I know I am. But still am absolutely enraged

[sweetfall]

that some tosser has parked his/her Audi TT outside my house for 10 days straight, and hasn't bothered to move it at all. This means that when I swoop up the road I now have to actually do a reverse parking maneouvre rather than just park in one move to curve manouvre outside my own bloody house which is so conveniently located on a corner.

Move your bloody car and park it outside your own house.

[LucyMinter]

Calm down women. You two are both obv very stressed atm, and I'm so sorry you are going through this.

Sweetfall - three weeks would have made me a bit as well. Surely though if three feet away there is a nice big unused parking bay you could be using that instead without too much inconvenience...however I am glad it has gone, finally!

Hope you both have some good news soon xx

[purepurple]

thingone, i agree with you about the blackmail bit

[ThingOne]

"her" at end of second to last line should read "their"

[ThingOne]

What's wrong with my last sentence? Look at sweetfall's other posts which I did when I saw her reply. She says she has massive health anxiety. I know what she's talking about. Help is available. Why is it harsh to suggest it? We should be more open about dealing with these things. It is absolutely not unkind to suggest help.

I'm not "having a go" at sweetfall. In her last post she said my comment was stupid. I didn't retort on the name calling. I explained why it wasn't stupid for me to say what I originally said.

I also thought the whole of her last paragraph read as emotional blackmail. Having said people should not use comments to bolster her argument she then used her possible illness to bolster her own argument.

[Yurtgirl]

[Yurtgirl]

WHy are people having a go at sweetfall - she knows she is being a little unreasonable but nevertheless wants to have a moan, thats fair enough!!!!

Thingone - that was an unnecessarily harsh post
Surely all of us get worked up about seemingly trivial things occasionally???

I do - such as why its always my turn to do the washing up!

[qwertpoiuy]

That's awful Yurtgirl. There are some very inconsiderate people around. What if you did own a car and you needed to get somewhere in an emergency!

at Riven's post too.

[Yurtgirl]

Sweetfall - I too feel your pain, but at least the car isnt parked across your drive

For the first time in years I live in a house with a drive, no car but I do have a drive

My neighbours park across my drive all the time - arghhhhhhhhhh drive me crazy

I know I dont use it but that isnt the point - its mine!

[qwertpoiuy]

Sweetfall, was the car taken away by the owner or the police? I suppose it doesn't matter now the blooming thing is gone.

I'm glad it's now sorted.

YwereNBU!

[motherpi]

Thingone, you sound as though you are having a tough time of it, but that last comment was below the belt

[ThingOne]

Sweetfall. I guess your last statement was aimed at me. I have now looked up earlier exchanges on your health (I didn't recall them earlier). You'll find I was very supportive. The reason I was supportive is because I know what it is like to face a life threatening disease and the anxiety that goes with it.

This month I have several scans to see whether the treatment for my primary colo-rectal and metastatic liver cancer has been successful. I have been ill for two and a half years. This has had a profound affect on me.

One of these effects is that when I see someone asking, in AIBU, in all seriousness about something which is so utterly trivial I do think "What the fuck? Don't they have anything better to think about?" I rarely post along these lines because it would be rude. And I'm generally a pretty polite person despite the enormous stress I have been under for so long.

You say my comments were stupid and hurtful. It certainly wasn't stupid. My comment was from my heart, actually. I would love, absolutely love, to have such a carefree life that I could care that parking can be difficult in my street. Sadly it's unlikely for me that I will be able to be so carefree for long time to come, if ever.

Hurtful? It wasn't meant to be. Can I remind you that this is AIBU? And that you were being unreasonable, as you admit.

And I think you need help with your health anxiety if you are getting so worked up at both the car and a post on AIBU. Ask your doctor.

[CaptainRex]

MF: having off road parking isnt always the solution. In our last hosue we had off road parking, but someone who lived a 5 minute walk away insisted on parking both their cars either side of our driveway (and once it was parked over our driveway for half a day), and often as tight to our driveway as possible.

As we lived on a main bus route, getting in and out of the driveway became a major life gamble as it was nearly impossible to see the road safely until your car was halfway into the road.

Our solution was to park one of our cars on the road outside our house to guarantee we could get the car in and out. Especially when it got closer to my due date and we really didn't the worry about being able to get out

[monkeyfeathers]

motherpi: i assume that these cars for sale are all owned by some kind of dealership. Or is it just some weird local custom?

In either case, it would probably be worth phoning your local councillor/going to his/her surgery to talk about it. All the parking spaces around the local park should not be taken up by cars that never move (until they're sold); people using the park should be able to use them. The council could put in some kind of parking restrictions to force vehicle turnaround (along the lines of 'park for up to an hour/2 hours, no return within 4 hours') or something.

As for parking outside your house: if you really must guarantee that you can park next to your front door, then you should buy a house with off-road parking. The road outside is fair game for anyone to park on. My neighbours are really weird about parking (and everything else, tbh). They will come round and complain if you park in 'their' space (the one in front of their house). The hilarious thing is that I'm pretty certain that in using 'their' space they almost always leave their car illegally parked (too close to the corner).

[sweetfall]

It's gone! It's gone! Tralalalaaa

Just to repeat finally though

• there is plenty of space to park that is not directly outside any of the house's front doors.

• it was mildly inconvenient for me in terms of herding children and dealing with shopping

• the only way I can park directly outside and not on the other side of the road is if my neighbour's car is not there and then sometimes she doesn't get to park directly outside her house (but as this is a transient thing ie for one day it is less irritating)

• this is not a road that has any services, parks, shops anything anywhere near - apart from a school which again has transient parking

• I have always said I have no rights but expressed my irritation

• the comments about having no other problems are stupid and can be hurtful and pushed me right back into contemplating whether my current health scare will be resolved or not and whether I'll actually be around next year. I think this issue became something different to focus on that I could deal with in a light-hearted way instead of having real anxiety - I think I'm saying please be careful about your throw-away comments used to bolster arguments as they can occasionally rebound in a way you do not expect / cannot expect and would not intend

[motherpi]

To take the public road thing further, we have a park nearby and every one of the parking spaces surrounding it is filled with cars for sale. They are there all the time and they stop other people from using the spaces.

It's absolutely legal for them to do this, but that doesn't make it reasonable.

[cory]

Since we moved into this house 16 years ago, the space outside our house has alwats been occupied by other cars. Last month we bought one of our own. Which now, as a natural consequence has to be parked outside somebody else's house. I just assume that people choose to park outside ours because they have no parking space elsewhere- else why would they choose not to do it outside their own?

[motherpi]

Lovely? Lonely? Not sure how bitchy speculation about other people's lives is helpful.

You point is absolutely correct Duke, of course. But how would you feel if, say, someone left a huge pile of their stuff directly opposite your front door? It would be in a communal hallway (I assume), but bloody frustrating nonetheless.

Everyone knows that it's a public highway, but when you buy a flat you know that there will be no parking. When you buy a house on a street with parking, you - rightly or wrongly - assume that you'll be able to use the bit outside your house occasionally.

[duke748]

I live in a flat on a road which has no parking restrictions. I had a note on my car saying 'if you can't park outside your own house, park somewhere else'.

I was absolutely livid. Its a road with no parking restrictions.... anyone can park on it, for as long as they want.

It makes me wonder how lovely these people's lives must be if this is the biggest issue they are dealing with.

If you want your own special place to park... buy a place with a driveway or garage.

Grr. Grr.

[Doodle2u]

Parking within 15m of a corner is illegal innit?

Where's wienstein when you need her?!

[onagar]

It sounds like you still have room to park outside your house so I don't think you have much cause for complaint. Perhaps the owner is parking there because someone else is parked outside his house.

[sweetfall]

"I wish I had so little to worry about that I could care about whether or not I have to parallel park."

So the fuck do I actually ThingOne - so the fuck do I

[motherpi]

You are not being unreasonable. It is infuriating when someone leaves their car outside your house for any length of time. Why on earth would anyone park directly outside someone else's house when there are other options available?

[ThingOne]

YABVU. An inconvenience that you have to make an effort to park? You get het up about that? Really?

I would agree that it's odd that's a previously unknown car has not been moved for fifteen days. That's certainly worth reporting.

I wish I had so little to worry about that I could care about whether or not I have to parallel park.

[picmaestress]

A man turned up at my house and asked if I owned a black mini that had been 'abandoned' for 'weeks' outside his house. He was very curt and kind of rude, I'm guessing he'd been stewing for days
It had been parked in the street outside his house for just over a week, and I had no way of knowing that it would bother someone, so I hadn't moved it.
It's not possible to park in my street at all so my car will always be outside somebody else's house.
It wasn't in his way, and as there is space for 3 cars on the street outside his large house as well as a large drive, I still really don't get it. It was that particular space he had got himself in a tizz about.
I actually thought it was a joke for a couple of minutes before he insisted angrily that I move it instantly. I was openly incredulous and pretty upset by his manner, but I got the car keys and moved the car straight away. Two spaces away. I think he's a total loon and I'm very glad I'm not married to him.

YABVU, but why not just do what he did and call the DVLA and go round to their house if it bothers you that much? They might think you're loopy, but you'd stand a better chance of getting it sorted...