to want some space away from the woman who introduced me to my boyfriend?

[Chandra]

I know, I know, I should be grateful... They are very good friends and I'm the new one in the picture (well not so new, we have been together for 5 months now).

The thing is that when she wants to go out she first rings me to see if we want to go out, and if I say no, then she rings my boyfriend to ask what does he think.

Last week was particularly annoying as boyfriend and I had a major fell out, so I mentioned we were going to talk that afternoon and we needed some space.

half an hour before meeting with him she rang to say she was in the neighbourhood and wnated to come and join us. I insisted that we needed to be on our own, then while we were talking she rang him to see if she can come around... (WTF?)

The thing is we have very little time on our own, when we are not busy with our respective children, and I am starting to resent to have her around every single night that we could be alone. I understand they are friends but then... is it correct to ask me if I want to go to dance, and then when I say no, for her to try to convince my boyfriend to go with her???

[Chandra]

TBH she only provided the last straw. It has not been good for a while.

[wabbit]

Well, if that's the case then you are doing the right thing. It's going to feel crap to start with though {{hugs}}

[Chandra]

THank you for the hugs wabbit... I feel so much like crying but I simply can't. The hugs have helped though.

[wabbit]

ahh take care

[QueenBhannae]

Hope you are feeling positive and happy today Chandra

[Chandra]

Surprisingly... I do

I think that sometimes, when things like this happen, you get to doubt if what has happened is due to a mistake of your own and then get regrets.

I'm convinced that if he thinks that leaving me in such state to avoid being late for a party is the right thing to do, well... this tells much about his priorities and if he is not able to see my point then he is not the man I should be with.

So yes, back to my beloved freedom and surprisingly, is not hurting half as much as I thought it would. I find myself surprisingly happy (I may think otherwise another day but at the moment I'm enjoying the space )

Thank you all for your support.

[Chandra]

I take that back!

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

((HUGS))

[colacubes]

Oh no! x