to snoop?

[Tortington]

Background:
a manager also in same sporty team that dh is - and has opened his gob when pissed to some quite enlightening things that then get passed on to me cos DH is a gossip.

manager - married
flirting outragously with a member of staff - to the point of doing her work for her ( not my manager so am not fucked but i can see how other staff members sighing and eye rolling) and i kow pissed up gossip to boot

stayed late at work last night as so locked up.

i decided to raid the stationary cupboard - having previously told the Office manager ( quite a senior guy but mot my manager) that i would

the building was empty

so i snooped in managers office

i decided to go through the deesk draws

found

a

mobile phone

turned it on

and looked through it

secret phone with secret messages

WIU becuase i didn't ring voicemail?

i think i should have done

[Dresdenfiles]

As long as you dont get caught snooping, who cares?

YANBU

[Tortington]

ha ha LEM! am not a big fan of this man, he has tried to get me in the shit afore - long story - so am storing it alllllllllll up....y'know it might come in useful

[lucyellensmum]

Custy [shock i'm surprised at you!!!! yeah right.

So, what you need to do is this - listen to the voice mail, listen out for any tale tale phrases or pet names. Then, when you are all having a conversation or something, a meeting would be even better, drop those phrases into the conversation in an all innocent kind of way. I mean, its not like he is going to accuse you of snooping, on account of it being an admission.

Then, when he is suitably anxious, send annonymous emails to his bit of fluff, insinuating that you know stuff etc

Then - blackmail the fuckers .

Alternatively, you could do no more about it and be the bigger person knowing that karma will out!

[newforold]

How is it any of your business what this man is doing?
Stick to the stationery cupboard in future and leave other peoples personal belongings alone.
YABU.

[Guitargirl]

Do you know if the secret messages on secret phone were to the same woman he flirts with in the office?

And what are you going to do now you know more? Have you mentioned it to DH?

TBH if he's flirting that outrageously in the office am thinking he's not too bothered about hiding things (assuming it's the same woman?). Is she single? Does he have children?

[violentviolet]

Were they rude secret messages, then?

[Tortington]

like i say my dh knows him socially and i have met his wife a couple of times - we have been out as a group on occasion

and then he is outragously flirting - no holds barred in the middle of the office.

then as i was looking to aquire some fancier pens than in stationary cupboard ( ie non! skingy gits) ..there appeared a phone.

well would have been rude - seeing as i think he is a prize scabby cheating slimy bastard...

[lilolilmanchester]

I'm interested cos just killing a few mins on MN and not much else going one. Tho am also a nosey cow, work in the environment Custy is describing.

[Psychomum5]

YABU...you know that.

but it is such fun

[PMT]

I'm so interested because I'm a nosey cow and have no life

[wigparty]

Are you being serious though? I'm honestly interested to know why YOU'RE so interested? I don't work for anyone, so miss out on all this kind of intrigue

[lilolilmanchester]

just knew you were going to say that, and understand why. Am SOOOOO intrigued tho!!

[wigparty]

definitely a SNOOPER. That's wrong!

[PMT]

well in that case YABVU

[Tortington]

i can't tell you what the messages say

[lilolilmanchester]

I think we need more details to be able to give a fair answer....

[gemmiegoatlegs]

SNOOP

[PMT]

for the love of god woman

what did the messages say?

[Tortington]

dya think so?

[gemmiegoatlegs]

just don't TELL anyone (except us, obviously!)

[gemmiegoatlegs]

i say snoop custy

[blueskythinker]

You may need to work on setting some boundaries for yourself [understatement emoticon]

[unknownrebelbang]

One of our managers does lock her drawers, and they were broken into by a member of staff.

No secret phones though.

My stuff gets rifled occasionally. (Fk knows why, there's nothing interesting there).

[PMT]

YANBU

what did the messages say?

[Tortington]

no i didn't think i was being unreasonable either - he should have locked the drawer - tantermount to asking to be found imo