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AIBU?

to be peeved my dm expects us to drop everything

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FlyMeToTheMoonAndLetMePlay · 11/07/2008 13:51

My dm expects us to drop evrything to go and see my sibling in their performance.

She has arranged it at a time when my dp will have to take time off work as I have no other childcare and she will not look after the other younger one.

It is 10 miles from where we live and i cannot drive so will have to be ferried by dp too.

All for a 30min show.

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FlyMeToTheMoonAndLetMePlay · 11/07/2008 17:13

pmsl fabio id probably get a clip round the ear for that even though I am 32!

Feel relaxed now, thanks for the push guys.

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FabioTheLiterateCat · 11/07/2008 16:48

Hurrah! Good for you!

Now, when she brings it up, effect an air of disappointment and say things like "Yes, it was a shame to miss it, if only you'd booked the right ticket."

TheProvincialLady · 11/07/2008 16:34

Well done. You know every time you stand up to her and ignore her sulking you are sending her the message that sulking will not make you give in. Bravo!

nametaken · 11/07/2008 16:30

Why don't you go to the afternoon one?

How is your sibling going to get to and from the school for the evening performance?

I've got a mum just like yours. Everytime I say the word "no" to her she sulks and doesn't talk to me for weeks - (i love it)

MrsTittleMouse · 11/07/2008 16:25

What does the sibling think about this? When I was in school things I would have been disappointed if no-one had been able to come to any of the performances, but I didn't expect family in the audience for afternoon and evening.

YANBU to so no by the way. Your Mum is being really childish to sulk and you have a very valid reason why you can't make it.

FlyMeToTheMoonAndLetMePlay · 11/07/2008 16:14

EEEEeek! I did it, I said I cant go!!!! She is really annoyed with me I can tell. This is going to bite me on the arse for ages

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TheProvincialLady · 11/07/2008 15:32

As long as she sulks in the privacy and comfort of her own home, I don't see the problem.

clam · 11/07/2008 14:42

I CANNOT BEAR people who sulk, and therefore get everyone around them dancing to their tune. The more you conform, the more she'll continue. You don't have to do as she says, and if she sulks for months, then let her get on with it. Enjoy the break from her. Think Mazzystar has the solution.

Heated · 11/07/2008 14:40

"Lovely. You'll be able to baby sit then?.. Oh dear, that's such a shame as I really wanted to go. Oh well, never mind, maybe next time. Oh no XX leave the cat alone..sorry DM got to go."

LilRedWhiskGers · 11/07/2008 14:34

Do as Mazzy suggests. She either babysits or stumps up the cash DP will lose.

FlyMeToTheMoonAndLetMePlay · 11/07/2008 14:31

That is correct mazzy.

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mazzystar · 11/07/2008 14:24

just still trying to understand the situation
sibling is in 2 school performances - one afternoon, one evening. dm has gone to afternoon one, expects you to go to evening one. will not babysit for you. is that right?

tell her dp will lose money if he changes his shift and you cannot afford it. you will go if she can babysit. go to the afternoon one yourself too.

FabioTheLiterateCat · 11/07/2008 14:16

No, I am not clever.

What did she say when you pointed out that she'd make things difficult and expensive for you,FMTTMALMPATS,SMWTSILOJAM (sorry, carried away singing in my head, went into the rest of the verse)

LilRedWhiskGers · 11/07/2008 14:12

But actually thought you were being clever with Whiskers Singles. Even more

LilRedWhiskGers · 11/07/2008 14:11

< I copied and pasted and accidently picked up Ingles. >

CarGirl · 11/07/2008 14:11

I guess I would just tell her that this time you can't go and next time ask your sister to let you know what she's in, when they are etc so you can sort out when you go IYSWIM

FlyMeToTheMoonAndLetMePlay · 11/07/2008 14:11

yes custy, tis of my own making lol

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FlyMeToTheMoonAndLetMePlay · 11/07/2008 14:10

she went to an afternoon showing , which would have been easier for me.
dp has flexible work patterns so she knows he can be off but he will lose money by being so.

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Tortington · 11/07/2008 14:09

well if you do it - no wonder she expects it!

mazzystar · 11/07/2008 14:08

tell her dp cannot take time off work

why is she not going?

am a bit confused

FabioTheLiterateCat · 11/07/2008 14:07

LilRedWhiskGersingles · 11/07/2008 14:04

Let her sulk. Her loss.

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CarGirl · 11/07/2008 14:04

why is dm not going?

LilRedWhiskGersingles · 11/07/2008 14:04

I was LilRedWG until YOU rechristened me

FabioTheLiterateCat · 11/07/2008 14:03

I'd let her sulk tbh.
People like that only get worse.

Hijack:LRWG - were you ingles? Top new name btw

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