I'm a SAHM with 3 kids (10 Wk Old, 1YO, 6YO. I'm always trying my best to be the best parent for my kids, spend time really with them like making sure am present and enjoying their company, take them to places nearly everyday to make them happy. I look back at my own childhood my parents weren't in it with their heart. They don't make any effort to see my kids they expect me to take my kids to see them every weekend they never come to mine to see them, they're not the most welcoming when I go there aswell, after like an hour they're yawning saying they tired etc and make it obvious they cant be arsed with the kids. My dad always drinks atm and that's all he cares about. Just feel like they're barely acting like grandparents. My mam does have MS and feels poorly quite a lot so I dont expect much from her but my dad doesn't have any excuse. My mam is poorly but she could enjoy their company more like interact with rhem more instead of just sticking them in front of the telly as soon qs they come un, if I ask to babysit she plain right refuses straight away. My 2 eldest kids had a sleepover at their house when they were 5 YO and 16 MO only because I left their bags and told them straight they were babysitting while I go to have dinner and night with DH before baby no 3 came along. Because if I asked they would of just said no. Am honestly just feeling so let down by them I normally would go every Saturday to theirs but today I just took the kids to softplay instead. Please tell me its my problem and it's not them. I just see all these other grandparents doing so much with their grandchildren while mine seems to be totally selfish never leave the house to visit us and always negative argumentative and miserable and just toxic for my kids. Sorry for the long post its just getting me so down. I feel like my kids deserve so much more. My other half's parents don't live in this country so they don't have anyone else by their side.
AIBU?
Feel shit and pissed off with kids grandparents
Mamaofthree1 · 18/03/2023 22:58
Am I being unreasonable?
1122 votes. Final results.
POLLLondonJax · 19/03/2023 16:28
Just as it is for the OP to provide and protect her own children as it was her and her DH choice to have them wasn't it?
Thesharkradar · 19/03/2023 13:17
i think you mean she should remember all the things that they did for her when she was a child and teen
They made a choice to have children and having made that choice it is their duty to protect and provide for their child.
LondonJax · 19/03/2023 16:28
Just as it is for the OP to provide and protect her own children as it was her and her DH choice to have them wasn't it?
Thesharkradar · 19/03/2023 13:17
i think you mean she should remember all the things that they did for her when she was a child and teen
They made a choice to have children and having made that choice it is their duty to protect and provide for their child.
Thesharkradar · 19/03/2023 13:17
i think you mean she should remember all the things that they did for her when she was a child and teen
They made a choice to have children and having made that choice it is their duty to protect and provide for their child.
Thesharkradar · 19/03/2023 13:17
i think you mean she should remember all the things that they did for her when she was a child and teen
They made a choice to have children and having made that choice it is their duty to protect and provide for their child.
Back2front · 19/03/2023 10:56
As someone whose parents were totally involved in my kids' lives, I get your point OP. I would want to be involved and support with any grandchildren that come along. They sound inadequate and won't change tho so just do your own thing and stop making an effort to go see them. Remember this when they are elderly.
Back2front · 19/03/2023 10:56
As someone whose parents were totally involved in my kids' lives, I get your point OP. I would want to be involved and support with any grandchildren that come along. They sound inadequate and won't change tho so just do your own thing and stop making an effort to go see them. Remember this when they are elderly.
melj1213 · 18/03/2023 23:22
They appreciate their own company, their own space, their own lives.
Why can't you appreciate that they don't think your little darlings are the be all and end all of their existence and stop trying to force them on one another?
Mamaofthree1 · 18/03/2023 23:21
Yeah but the real issue isn't that they wouldn't babysit, am not even bothered about going out really. Its the fact that they're not even appreciating what's in front of them.
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Dacadactyl · 19/03/2023 11:18
I didn't have kids for them to look after me either. However, it's much nicer all round if your kids are on hand to decipher correspondence, help sort out bills and insurances, hospital stuff, medications etc when you can't do it for yourself.
As long as OPs parents and those like them remember that relationships are a 2 way street in this regard, that's all fine.
Although I must admit, I missed the MS and drink problem bit in your original post OP and it does sound like they are in no position to help anyone at present.
Dial back on the weekly visits...not only for your sake, but theirs.
coeurnoir · 19/03/2023 11:05
Don't be ringing your kids when you're 85 and need some help then. They might just change their phone number.
Luckily I didn't have kids for them to look after me in my old age! We've made arrangements already thanks.
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