Hi everyone,
My DH has been diagnosed with a very serious form of cancer which doesn’t usually have a good outlook in terms of living beyond a year, maybe two. I really need a hand hold. He took it very calmly at first but the shock is now beginning to set in and it’s extremely difficult for both of us. We haven’t told anyone yet as we are waiting for results of the CT scan and advice on our options first.
Everyone, family and friends will be shocked but supportive I am very sure ……. all except my DSD. She will be shocked, she will be upset and she will want to travel to us to be with my DH. However, this is a young woman who is selfish, over confident and domineering. Her way is the correct way … always. She will bat down anyone’s point of view if it differs from hers. She asks for huge presents at birthday times etc, phones her dad before her birthday and Christmas but never any other time. She does not send him a card for his birthday, Father’s Day or Christmas Day. He telephones her and tries to arrange meet ups but is given the runaround by her. She is against conventional treatment and thinks everything can be sorted through complimentary therapies, but I have to say that’s only what they are … complimentary therapies that work alongside conventional treatments for the best possible outcome. They are not cures in themselves. He tried to phone her to let her know what was happening regarding a diagnosis but she shouted and argued down the phone about Big Pharma and all the poison they put into your body and this is before she knows that he is ill. He ended up stopping the conversation because he couldn’t take it and he couldn’t bring himself to tell her therefore. She is a huge conspiracy theorist and we are beginning to think that she has mental problems.
Anyway, sorry for the rant but once she does find out she will without a doubt travel here, expect to stay and for me to wait on her hand and foot, expect to be able to call the shots regarding her Dad’s treatment irrespective of what his wishes are etc etc. We are both totally washed out, devastated and not sleeping. AIBU in wanting her to stay with relatives if she comes up? I just or indeed we just could not cope with her drama on top of everything else.
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Broxburngal · 10/10/2022 18:19
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