Been seeing a guy for a few months. Liked him a lot more than most men I see so I was keen, but fairly early on he explicitly said he wasn't looking for anything serious and asked if we could keep it casual. I wasn't sure at first, but after some deliberation I decided to carry on casually while I date other men as I'm looking for a partner.
I've cooled off my feelings and although I still like him I'm no longer in that initial infatuation phase as like I said I'm actively seeking a serious relationship. He is now the one to initiate most contact but he seems to do this pretty much every day. It's unusual that we go one day without messaging and 99% of the messages are non sexual, everyday messages with some degree of affection.
AIBU to think that this is not normal for a casual setup? I get that every person's preference and situation will be different but it makes me think that he thinks he has me when surely the point in being casual is that we can see anyone we like? I haven't explicitly mentioned I'm still dating others as I'd find it awkward to talk about with him but surely it's implied that casual means non exclusive? For reference we see each other an average of once every 1-2 weeks, so it's hardly like this frequent messaging is necessary.
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To think he wants to have his cake and eat it
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Forfrigz · 02/10/2022 19:06
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Cw112 · 02/10/2022 22:02
He's been clear with you on what he wants and his boundaries. Don't read more into it than that or you'll end up disappointed. If that becomes difficult to do then you need to cut your contact and move on for your own sake.
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