Gossiping school mum friend

[Scaryhairylairymary]

Nc for this.

I have a school mum friend through my DD(6), we have gotten close since our kids started reception together, have had meals out and at each others homes etc .

We found out very early on that she has a neighbour who is related to a close family member of mine (the neighbour isn't related to me but knows of me through this mutual family connection of ours).

I had been having marriage trouble for a while to the extent that my H moved out for a period of time, he is back now and we are working through our issues. I confided in my friend at the time as it was difficult to hide and I felt close enough to her to talk about it.

I saw the close relative last weekend at a family function, she took me to one side for a general chat, which then became quite specific questioning regarding my marriage (from a place of concern rather than being nosy). She told me that she had found this out from my friend's neighbour.

I was a bit blind sided by the conversation and so didn't really react in any way, but thinking about it over the week, I am upset that my frienx told her neighbour something so personal that she knew could have gotten back to me through the family member. Should I say something and how do I word it? Our kids are very good friends and i don't want to make it awkward by keeping an obvious distance

[Hawkins001]

Basically saying something will just create more waves, best consider it down to experience and that the only person you can truly trust is yourself.

[CheezePleeze]

I can't believe you've gone a whole week without phoning your friend and asking her what the hell she was playing at.

She's broken your confidence big time and that's not ok.

I get that you don't want to make it awkward because your kids are good friends, but that's the risk you take when you want to be friends with your kid's friend's parents.

[Oneandone]

What a betrayal at such a difficult time for you. Sorry. I'd fizzle her out as I'm not a confrontational person but that's probably not the right advice. Either way you won't feel that you can confide in her again.