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To pay for friend ?
Sunnytree90 · 16/09/2022 12:58
I've taken on extra hours (overtime on top of working FT) in my day job. Its quite exhausting. I would like to book a spa for the day with my friend to chill. I've got a special price/deal. I would really like to pay for her (£80 each) as she is my bestie and has treated me to things in past (but not on this value/scale). I can afford the £80 each and I cant. I could use the money to put towards debt. TBH I have so much debt that just the cost of my friend (£80) is merely a months minimum payment on my store card and it wont make a dent in what I owe what so ever. £80 is an xmas gift for my parents. £80 is my hair being cut and coloured at a decent salon near me (hair is long overdue). Paying £80 for the spa for me is more than doable. I really want to pay for her too but I also know there are so many things that the money could be used for too.
You only live once and you don't know what is around the corner.
Thoughts ?
Am I being unreasonable?
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FoolishMortals · 16/09/2022 16:18
Out of curiosity @Sunnytree90 but do you have children? If so, this would be a valuable life lesson to them.
Mum wants a spa day, but has other things to pay off. Life lesson - if you want nice things in life, you need to pay off debts first.
Life lesson applies to everyone though regardless if you have children or not.
£80 towards hair? Is it possible to buy home dye for £10 and do it yourself?
Id honestly get rid of the debt first before spending £160 on a spa day which in my opinion aren't all that cracked up to be (maybe I haven't found one that I've actually found worth the money)
Woolandwonder · 16/09/2022 16:28
I can totally understand that it feels like a nice thing to do and that you need a treat but also that you probably are feeling quite weighed down by debt at the moment. Is there a way of you doing something together that's cheaper that you treat her to that might feel nice? Bottle of wine, pizza, some face masks and a film together might feel really nice and relaxing and not cost you much more than 20 quid?
LuftBalloons · 16/09/2022 17:16
There are loads & loads of things you can do with your friend to "chill" which don't cost £80. It's foolhardy to be so deep in debt and fritter it away on a spa day. They are so inflated in price for what they offer & a waste of money.
Go for a swim in the sea ...
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