Asking someone to move seats on a flight? Aibu ?

[wearejustfriends]

Last week I was travelling to Gran Canaria with TUI.
I had booked mine and boyfriends seats when we booked and paid £22 for both.
I had the window and he had the middle.

A lady sat on the end and her daughter was in front.
She asked could they have our two seats and we have hers /daughters or my boyfriend switch with her daughter.
I politely said no.
Which she wasn't happy about.
We got "what difference does it make"
"Your adults,my daughter is sacred of flying and is a minor"

Anyway we wouldn't move.

Was I in the wrong ?
Surely if she was that bothered she could have paid like us.

[avamiah]

I am sick of hearing about situations like this to be honest.

Its simple, if I have paid and booked for a particular seat ( aisle) in my case and I’m travelling alone then I have no problem changing ( swapping my seat ) as long as it is to another aisle seat.

I am Not going to change to another seat if it’s not a aisle seat and that’s that end of conversation.

[Greenpolkadot]

@MLMsuperfan

I once booked seats on a train and when it arrived the train was packed and an elderly couple were occupying my booked spots. I did ask them to move and got some dark looks from the other passengers. I felt pretty bad about it but they did have the same chance to book that I had.

Did they move ?

[marcopront]

@Moviemusic1984

I did not justify what the mother did, I was merely stating that since the original poster said that she too gets nervous during flights when the plane takes off that she should have been at least sympathetic towards the plight of the daughter. I am not upset or angry that she did not exchange seats, I am just a bit perplexed why she could not at least feel compassion for the child given her own history with flights. I am actually a bit shocked why the majority who are applauding her actions here are in fact people who do have children.

The child's mother showed no sympathy to her child. If she did she would have booked a seat.

You want a random stranger to show more care about where the child would sit than her mother.

[rainbowmilk]

Yes, I am. You can say you believe whatever you like, but your language and your pitiful torrent of excuses are what I’ll go by.

[Backtobacknow]

@Moviemusic1984

I apologize for my vulgar behavior, and for using the "b" word, although it can apply to either gender.

I said it here, and I was not justifying myself in saying it, I was just addressing that women have said it to and about men as well, which is not any more excusable. It is a terrible word, no one should say it, but since we are all only human, we do slip from time to time, and we should not be held responsible for merely one small action.

But you are fucking odd!

Right there. Yes, that is an offensive word as well, as well as s--t, and you have no more right to say it than I do with a word I said only initially once, and did not even plan to from the get go.

Right there. Yes, that is an offensive word as well, as well as s--t, and you have no more right to say it than I do with a word I said only initially once, and did not even plan to from the get go.

Makes no sense

[Backtobacknow]

I think you mean a misandrist not misandrists?

Not at all to either, just don't think you're a nice man.

[Moviemusic1984]

@Backtobacknow

Where did I cuss you?

Cuss is a derivative of curse?

But you are fucking odd!

Can you highlight were you apologised, I cannot find it.

I apologize for my vulgar behavior, and for using the "b" word, although it can apply to either gender.

I said it here, and I was not justifying myself in saying it, I was just addressing that women have said it to and about men as well, which is not any more excusable. It is a terrible word, no one should say it, but since we are all only human, we do slip from time to time, and we should not be held responsible for merely one small action.

But you are fucking odd!

Right there. Yes, that is an offensive word as well, as well as s--t, and you have no more right to say it than I do with a word I said only initially once, and did not even plan to from the get go.

[Backtobacknow]

Feel free to report my post!

You called a woman a bitch! Disgusting!

Stop with the whole "b" word bollocks!

Your apology was a victim blaming quote!

[Moviemusic1984]

@Backtobacknow

I assumed that wasn't an apology as followed up with a "but!"

Bit like when my boys were young, one would do something wrong to his brother and when told to apologise would do so, but with a but......

Victim blaming IMO

Then perhaps you do not understand what a sincere apology is. I said it. I meant it. Do not classify the previous actions of your son with my actions, entirely different. I acknowledged my poor behavior and I apologized for it. I should not have to feel bad for it, and the fact that many of you are making me feel bad about it is just upsetting.

[Backtobacknow]

@rainbowmilk

There’s a big difference between swearing and misogynistic slurs. Your continuing to minimise what you said is why people think that you haven’t apologised.

The “apology” - for those asking - is on p.31 at 16.10. Wording:

I apologize for my vulgar behavior, and for using the "b" word, although it can apply to either gender.

🙄

I assumed that wasn't an apology as followed up with a "but!"

Bit like when my boys were young, one would do something wrong to his brother and when told to apologise would do so, but with a but......

Victim blaming IMO

[Backtobacknow]

@Moviemusic1984

Do not cuss at me, it is no better than me calling the original poster a "b word." Foul language is foul language whatever gender is using it.

Do not insult me just for using this site. You can think that, but given that logic, I can consider the original poster odd for posting the incident here, not that different really, and in every way just as fair.

Where did I cuss you?

Cuss is a derivative of curse?

But you are fucking odd!

Can you highlight were you apologised, I cannot find it.

[rainbowmilk]

There’s a big difference between swearing and misogynistic slurs. Your continuing to minimise what you said is why people think that you haven’t apologised.

The “apology” - for those asking - is on p.31 at 16.10. Wording:

I apologize for my vulgar behavior, and for using the "b" word, although it can apply to either gender.

🙄

[Moviemusic1984]

@Backtobacknow

More literacy issues. this poster asked you why you were "browsing" MN, didn't say you cannot post, just said your fucking odd.

You've changed the whole post..... and then tried to dictate that the OP should've posted elsewhere? Whilst you say say that saying that people saying where you can and cannot post is disrespectful?

You are so weird!

Do not cuss at me, it is no better than me calling the original poster a "b word." Foul language is foul language whatever gender is using it.

Do not insult me just for using this site. You can think that, but given that logic, I can consider the original poster odd for posting the incident here, not that different really, and in every way just as fair.

[Backtobacknow]

@giveovernate

@Moviemusic1984 could you highlight it? I really can't see it?

@Moviemusic1984 can you highlight?

[Moviemusic1984]

@rainbowmilk

all I meant to do was respond (respectfully as I could) to the original poster)

Yes, calling a woman a bitch is very respectful, you’re to commended on your diplomacy and restraint.

Adding “I don’t often say it” to the list of excuses.

You are twisting my words. I did not ever call it respectful, I said myself I try my best to refrain from saying it, and saying that I am only human is not excusing myself. It is just stating that as with everyone else here, I am liable to make mistakes now and then as well. If you cannot understand this, then I am sorry but the fault lies on you not me, and do not think that all of you who are also swearing me are in the clear as well, foul language is foul language whoever says it.

[Backtobacknow]

@Moviemusic1984

Do not tell me where I can and cannot post. That is very disrespectful and you are not in the right to say it. Perhaps the original poster should have said it on a site with a broader audience.

More literacy issues. this poster asked you why you were "browsing" MN, didn't say you cannot post, just said your fucking odd.

You've changed the whole post..... and then tried to dictate that the OP should've posted elsewhere? Whilst you say say that saying that people saying where you can and cannot post is disrespectful?

You are so weird!

[Moviemusic1984]

@giveovernate

@Moviemusic1984 the original poster wasn't interested in a man that had no children's opinion, which is why she posted on mumsnet.

Still it would not hurt to hear opinions from the other side of the gender spectrum. What occurred to her could easily happen for a man as well, could easily happen for someone who does not even have children. If she was only interested in the audience of women, then I am sorry but that was very narrow minded, her choice but still.

[giveovernate]

@Moviemusic1984 the original poster wasn't interested in a man that had no children's opinion, which is why she posted on mumsnet.

[rainbowmilk]

all I meant to do was respond (respectfully as I could) to the original poster)

Yes, calling a woman a bitch is very respectful, you’re to commended on your diplomacy and restraint.

Adding “I don’t often say it” to the list of excuses.

[giveovernate]

@Moviemusic1984 could you highlight it? I really can't see it?

[Moviemusic1984]

@giveovernate

@Moviemusic1984 you've still not apologised....

I did, you just did not acknowledge it.

[Moviemusic1984]

@giveovernate

@Moviemusic1984 but why........ were you on this site in the first place to see the post? Very fucking odd for a single male without children to be "browsing"' mumsnet?

If you don't like your treatment, then deregister and go on your merry way.

👋

Do not tell me where I can and cannot post. That is very disrespectful and you are not in the right to say it. Perhaps the original poster should have said it on a site with a broader audience.

[giveovernate]

@Moviemusic1984 you've still not apologised....