to feel offended by this comment from my lovely mum...

[Kewcumber]

...neices 18th brithday party last Saturday, drove my mum down with DS for the evening. Lot of friedns and family and a nice time was had by all.

This morning my mum says to me happily "your sister told me she thought you looked stunning on Saturday but that you have looked abysmal every other time she's seen you for the past 6 months".

She was thought that was a lovely compliment.

So I am being unreasonable to think

a) to describe me as "stunning" was patronising when actually I looked "nice"
b) the "compliment" would have sounded so much nicer if she hadn't added the qualifier.

I feel quite unreasonably upset about it.

[beeper]

[bran]

Oh dear, how odd. I always got the impression that your mum was a sweetie. Perhaps it was a poor attempt at a joke.

[EffiePerine]

Nod and smile. My mother is also incapable of a non-backhanded compliment. I let it wash over me.

(I'm sure you looked great btw)

[RosaLuxMundi]

I'm sure your mum meant no harm, but I would have felt like crying if someone had said that to me (and my sister has a habit of making that sort of remark too - she once told everyone in earshot at a family wedding that I had got the brains but she had got the looks )
I would have said straight out that I found that comment hurtful.

[HuwEdwards]

I think if someone says you look stunning, you should accept it and not automatically think they're patronising you.

the abysmal comment from your Sister was out of order however you should be annoyed at your sis, not so much your mum.

[BoysAreLikeReindeer]

Families, eh, Kewcumber.

She probably thought she was being very complimentary.

Of course you are upset, not unreasonable at all

[LydiaTheTattooedLapin]

Urgh, parents can be rubbish sometimes.

Do you think your sister was trying to say you've been looking rather tired recently, but you looked much better and rather gorgeous on Saturday? and your mum just worded it horrendously?

(You always look good on here )