Awkward Work Moment 🙄

[Movinbaby]

I am getting really tired of my work colleague. She is always talking about her personal life and her husband who she makes sound awful. She has been with the company for 3 years and it's all she talks about. She seems to need the attention. What is worse is she takes liberties all the time. Currently it's taking well over her 30 minute lunch. She goes out of the office, which is her choice but spends around 45 minutes. She goes to the GP, the supermarkets all at a distance and then comes back and eats her lunch whilst working but she likes to chat so isn't really working and this disturbs everyone else who are working. Well today she was gone for an hour and the receptionist called me as she was truly concerned about her. She didn't sign out of the building. The colleague walked back in having been home (some distance) made a sandwich etc. I was on the call to the receptionist as she walked in so when I ended the call I told her that she was worried as she had been gone so long. Before I knew what I was saying, I had told her that it really was unfair that she keeps taking so long for lunch when everyone only gets 30 minutes. There was no reason other than "I went home to get some money and then decided to make a sandwich" I told her that she did this every day and that she only gets 30 minutes like I do. I just could not stop myself. Its not just that but she comes to work and does her makeup for 10 minutes every morning. I did tell her that people are noticing and it's only a matter of Time before they report it to the boss. What she doesn't know is the receptionist had to tell the boss as she didn't sign out of the building and they need to know this.

Anyways, it was very uncomfortable after and she sulked all afternoon and kept making snide comments about working her time back etc.

Whoops 🤭

[pilates]

Hey op, any improvements on piss taker?

[Devora13]

44socalledfriend

You have a shit manager problem.

This. Some people are fair, others take the piss, and if no one pulls them up on it they carry on. If I'd been her manager I'd have been having a chat the first time to find out if there was a problem, reminding her of her contract terms the second time, and we'd then be on to a verbal warning.

[Cuddlesandcurves]

It’s a crap manager problem for sure. It’s not your job to sort this out. Step back and let your manager earn their stripes.

[CrankyFrankie]

Yes Betty ‘darling’, capitalism at all costs! Americaaahh, fuck yeeaaahh! Etc.

[BettyBurntBuns]

@CrankyFrankie

Ugh do you work for Amazon or something? Sounds utterly shit on myriad levels.

Stop being lazy darling

[CrankyFrankie]

Ugh do you work for Amazon or something? Sounds utterly shit on myriad levels.

[BettyBurntBuns]

@Blackcat333

You say that she makes out how awful he is... Is he controlling? Perhaps he makes her check in with him during the day? I think you might have a quite caring word instead of berating her.

No. They are there to work.

This work colleague has no sense of time, pride, discipline or wants to work as a team.

Stop excusing her bahevaiour.

[Blackcat333]

You say that she makes out how awful he is... Is he controlling? Perhaps he makes her check in with him during the day? I think you might have a quite caring word instead of berating her.

[Blackcat333]

Have you considered that there is a real personal issue that means not to going home at lunch isn't an option? The thing that is absolutely shouting out to me is the first part of your post rather than the rest. This person has confided in you about her husband... Perhaps she needs your help?

[auntnellie]

I used to work with someone who took their 30 mins break and then when they had finished went for a 10 min toilet break. She also smoked and nipped out every hour for a fag. That means that she got an extra hour a day break to the rest of us. She then had the cheek to complain to the supervisor when the other staff fed up with her fag breaks decided to go for a chocolate bar break to make a point. Backfired on her big time as all fag breaks were stopped unless on your allocated break time.

[user1472151176]

Personally I say report her. Not so much because she's taking the p**s but if she's not signing out when she should be she's potentially causing a massive risk. If there was a fire, people would be risking their lives looking for her. Its incredibly selfish.

[bemusedmoose]

She isnt just taking the biscuit she's taking the whole tin!!

What kind of rubbish management hasn't noticed!?

My last manager timed me going to the loo, making coffee and even rang me to shout at me for leaving the building (I was in the loo throwing up with a migraine, couldnt walk to the door to leave even if a wanted to). Maybe the boss has told the receptionist to keep an eye on her because people have complained?

[BobISMyUncle]

I used to work with a woman (40 years old) who arrived at work at 9.30 everyday, looking like a bag lady. She went straight outside for a cigarette break. Her computer wasn't switched on until at least 10.00 and then, she refused to take any calls. She was busy, apparently. I complained to the "team leader". I was told "it's being monitored". How long does it take to monitor this behaviour? I was there for 5 years!
Incidentally, she still looks like a bag lady. Note to self - become best friends with your team leader!

[jillybeanclevertips]

What if she'd had an accident or been abducted(If only) Signing out is a H &S issue. Lets hope the boss finds out somehow. Colleagues like this are a PITA. Ignore her and her personal talk,"I don't want to hear your problems I've enough of my own and hearing your talk depresses me".

[Jeschara]

I know all that Bronwen, but this should all be kept in the workplace, and better still let the manager deal with it.
I would never put revealing details like this about a colleague on a public forum, and remember we only have one side of the story.
I am not a piss taker, I get in on time, take my allotted lunch hour, and honestly do not have the time to worry about other people. That's what their manager is for. I only complain if it affects me.
You also need to be careful what you post on social media, as some of it could be to outing and if the person see's this they would have cause to take out a grieveance.

[MaMaD1990]

If she's not be signing out for months, why has this not been raised with your manager sooner, and if it has, why has your manager not taken her to task over it? I don't think what you did was necessarily wrong but it's most certainly damaged the working environment and you'll get no thanks from anyone else. Next time, complain to your manager.

[Krabapple]

I work with a piss taker and know how frustrating and demoralising it is. I have repeatedly raised it but my manager is scared of tackling it. Said person has a variety of excuses and will definitely use the bullying card if challenged. We are on flexi but this person has not worked a full week for months - usually about 4 hours short each week. I have to ignore it now for my own sanity but I keep interaction to a minimum. Try to keep out of her way and just report it when it impacts your work (every time).

[flowerpowerss]

Sounds like a terrible place to work

[BronwenFrideswide]

If you don't take the piss then no-one would feel the need to speak to you about it Jeschara, nor inform management, nor talk about you outside of work.

It was the OP's business the piss taking colleague's behaviour directly impacts on her and also the Receptionist. Piss taker is there to work and abide by the rules of that workplace which don't include buggering off home for an hour to make a sandwich.

[Groovee]

[quote Supergirl1958]@Groovee omg I think I had about 30 seconds for my lunch today! If anyone works in a school it’s impossible to eat!![/quote]
We didn't have enough staff one day to ensure ratios were covered, so I ate with the children.

[Movinbaby]

@jeschara I appreciate your thoughts on my thread and maybe this is not the right place to post, but for me, it was the only place and that is the point of this forum. We should all be free to use it as its intended without people having to retort to being rude to each other. You may not agree and that's cool and you have a right to say so but don't be rude to me, that's not cool😩

[SamW98]

@BronwenFrideswide

You do not sound like the class creep, OP, I suspect a number of those criticising you are piss takers themselves or you've hit a nerve with them about the way they behave when at work.

Your colleague knows what the rules are in your work place, if she doesn't want to respect them or abide by them she should look for another job and for all those on here whinging about the rules at OP's workplace, you are not working there so it's not your problem.

I agree. She's signed a contract and if she doesn't like the terms she agreed to then its not the right job for her

As I said earlier, I managed a team of 20i my last job. As a manager, I don't have eyes in the back of my head and I spend a lot of time away from my desk and so I do appreciate the team sorting issues out amongst themselves. Or if they don't feel its their job to, then speak to me and/or the TL letting us know the issue and we will then take whatever action is needed.

We've all worked with or managed piss takers and why should they get away with it?

[Jeschara]

Movingbaby Incidents such as you posted about,should be dealt with at work and that is where it should stay. Also it is your manager who should be dealing with this not you.
If someone other than the manager had spoken to me like you spoke to your colleague I would tell them to mind there own business.
Get on with your own work and dont worry what your colleague does, and if it affects you let someone more senior than you deal with it.
What you posted was not a discussion but a character assaination of your colleague. Also I did not ask for your opininion on whether I should come on this thread, not your business. You have had your moment, now leave her alone. You saw fit to say that she gets paid more than you, your resentment shows very clearly.






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[Movinbaby]

@SamW98 🤣🤣 brilliant. I do appreciate all the comments and advice. Having read them all, I personally feel like I did what I felt was right given the circumstances and the moment. I now feel comfortable with it. I know some disagree and I respect that but if I had to do it again, I would do the same. So thanks 😊 feel free to comment amongst yourselves.......

[BettyBurntBuns]

@BronwenFrideswide

You do not sound like the class creep, OP, I suspect a number of those criticising you are piss takers themselves or you've hit a nerve with them about the way they behave when at work.

Your colleague knows what the rules are in your work place, if she doesn't want to respect them or abide by them she should look for another job and for all those on here whinging about the rules at OP's workplace, you are not working there so it's not your problem.

Exactly