Being a dick to ask for the money back?

[Youresogolden]

Went out a few weeks ago for mums play date/brunch. I ended up paying for a friend there as she forgot her purse, big confusion as paid for her drink but then she took the change given by the waiter (which was mine) so she owed me £10. She texted later laughing about her mistake and saying we’d have to meet and she’d give it to me. I said no worries etc and left it at that. We’re due to go for another play date/brunch with lots of mums on Friday, arranged by her as she lives nearby. Would I be being a dick to text beforehand asking if she could give me the tenner so I can get brunch for Dd and myself? Or should I wait to see if she offers to pay for it..? She’s very scatty, disorganised and forgetful, so she may have forgotten..just I’m quite skint this week and it would help?

[DaphneMoonsSeattle]

She has stolen from you. That change she took was yours, it was never, ever hers to spend! So this whole 'I'll try to get it back to you but I'm skint' must mean SHE has spent YOUR money. How fucking dare she? I'm livid on your behalf.

[Adifferentcorner]

It doesn’t matter if she’s skint, it wasn’t her money to take, it’s not like you even lent her the money either. I really wouldn’t give up on this. It’s the whole principle of it. Some people just don’t have any morals and you aren’t going to look petty asking for it back. It will just annoy her that you keep asking as she’s banking on you giving up. It’s money that she has taken from you.

[DeflatedGinDrinker]

What a piss take! Definately tell all the mums and ask her face to face infront of them next time you see her

[BorderlineHappy]

She'll get narky now cause you have the audacity to ask for what's yours

[WitchDancer]

I bet she's counting on you being embarrassed to keep asking for it. I have said it before, and I'll say it again - how long do you have to work to earn £10? Do you really want to let her off paying you back so you would have worked for nothing?

[StoneofDestiny]

Just text her 'I'm a bit tight for money, so I do need the £10'.

[Ohhyeahright]

You’ve got to text her and get it back!

[FlowerArranger]

she’s so all over the place, I wouldn’t know if it was a genuine forget or what

I haven't read the full thread, just OP's posts, but I think this kind of forgetting is a strategy of hers.

I would keep reminding her. Embarrass her. Maybe she'll learn. Or maybe not. But at leat you'll eventually get your money back.

[NewlyGranny]

If you message again, point out that you prefer to choose where your charitable giving goes and not be bushwhacked into donating to unworthy causes by having a request for giving disguised as a 'loan'.

If that doesn't shame her, nothing will. If you ask around subtly, you might find you aren't the only one. Your friendship group needs a warning that she pounces on borrows money but doesn't pay back!

[DoubleTweenQueen]

It’s quite awful, as she didn’t even borrow from you, but just took it.

If you let other mums know, you may find it’s happened to others, unless she’s new to the group? You can be very diplomatic, in order to not let other mums be taken advantage of in this way.

[AllTheUsernamesAreAlreadyTaken]

@VodkaSlimline

OMG! Please tell all the other mums...

I agree. I’d definitely not want this to happen to any of my friends

[Twoforthree]

Well you’ve got her measure then.

[VodkaSlimline]

OMG! Please tell all the other mums...

[hellogem]

Wow just goes to show she did it on purpose. She was banking on you not asking for it back.
I would at this point send her your bank detail and wouldn't bother seeing her again. How is she skint when she is able to eat out.

[RLABC]

So, she never had any intention to pay you back, that's quite obvious now

[Besidethesea82]

[quote Youresogolden]@Besidethesea82 I texted her after the event, she replied saying sorry but she was a bit tight for money at the moment, but as soon as could. Not heard back yet, don’t think I cba![/quote]
Hmm...now that is cheeky. I bet you feel annoyed 😒

[Youresogolden]

@Besidethesea82 I texted her after the event, she replied saying sorry but she was a bit tight for money at the moment, but as soon as could. Not heard back yet, don’t think I cba!

[Besidethesea82]

@Youresogolden

NOPE…still not got it back…!

So what happened in the end? Did you remind her?

[Youresogolden]

NOPE…still not got it back…!

[DeflatedGinDrinker]

Desperate to know if you got your money back 😂

[Alonelonelylonersbadidea]

IKR? I'm desperate for an update on Brunch CF!

[Besidethesea82]

@VodkaSlimline

Did you get your money back *@Youresogolden*?

I hope we get an update!!!

[VodkaSlimline]

Did you get your money back @Youresogolden?

[SixesAndEights]

People like her rely on people like you.

It's not petty to ask for it back, you're showing her you won't stand for her nonsense.

[Youresogolden]

@DaphneMoonsSeattle 🤣