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Does anyone else feel like their life is lacking something but not sure what?

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merrynelly · 12/05/2021 07:48

It's hard to explain but I feel like there is a gap, a void, an emptiness and I'm not sure how to fill it. I'm married with a child, have our own home, no financial issues, I'm very blessed in many ways. I'm just not sure what this hole is. No matter what goals I achieve, or what I do, there is always this emptiness. The only time I don't realise it is when I'm so busy I don't have a second to think, and I don't want to be that busy all the time. Not sure if this is just a normal part of life?

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merrynelly · 12/05/2021 08:42


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Tal45 · 12/05/2021 08:57

Personally what i'm missing right now is travel and being able to see my family - but maybe this isn't due to the pandemic?
As you seem to have all the other boxes ticked, what about doing some voluntary work that helps others/the planet? I think sometimes feeling you're doing some good in the world can be what's missing. You have to find the right thing for you though, so you feel you are making a difference.


Tal45 · 12/05/2021 08:58

the other thing is maybe you need to find a hobby you really love or something you want to achieve that is very personal or just for you, beyond work/family x


WrongWayApricot · 12/05/2021 09:06

I feel it too but I don't know what it is. It only goes away when I'm aiming for something, big or small. Could just be planning a trip somewhere or a craft project, but the excitement and momentum takes away that ache for something unknown. So I guess it's boredom? Even though it doesn't feel like boredom. I imagine it's part of human nature and that's what got us inventing things and experimenting. I think as a species we're rarely content and satisfied with where we are, otherwise we wouldn't have come as far as we have.

Maybe taking on something charitable, creative or spiritual will help? Something where you don't have to be very busy but there is always the possibility of feeling progress and achievement.


Branleuse · 12/05/2021 09:14



0ntheg0again · 12/05/2021 10:38

I do too but I know what it is, I am just lazy and need to get out more, do more exercise. Have thought for years that I would love to join a club, doesn't matter what, Football/Netball/Badminton just something and meet more/new friends I think. In the last 2 years my two best friends relocated overseas and it's been a big void. We didn't meet that much but I realise how much I miss the times that we did meet. Also need to get more involved in my job that I am sooooo bored of or get a new one


Backtoreality1 · 12/05/2021 10:55

Not necessarily missing something, but I do wonder sometimes what life is all about. Wake up, go to work, come home, go to bed, repeat. I do have some social activities, but do still have the moments of 'why'.


R1bbons · 12/05/2021 11:02

Yes I feel exactly like this. I'm late thirties, have a lovely husband, own my own home, decent career, hobbies, lovely family, but something is missing. I've assumed for a few years that it's children, but I know I don't want them - it's just what you're meant to tick off the list next. I'm always happiest when I have a project on the go (i.e. house renovation) and things to tick off and achieve.


adrianmolesmole · 12/05/2021 12:11

Are you sure you are really being yourself, or what others want you to be? Because when I was younger I was always moulded into what others wanted me to be, whether parents, friends or partners. I probably did it to myself but I always felt I couldn't be truly myself around people. I always felt an empty void so much that I even wrote a poem about it once Lol.

If so, perhaps journaling would help - to find your own voice, to explore what makes YOU happiest? What YOU really want out of life? Journaling really helped me. x


insideoutsider · 12/05/2021 13:45

Find religion or spirituality? Something bigger than you maybe?


Panpastels · 12/05/2021 13:56

Purpose? Having one seems to help the void. I'm an atheist but some would argue that spirituality (I suppose you don't need to believe in a god for that) is one way of filling a void too.

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