To not want to o to a job interview

[LuckyUnderpants]

I have a job interview next Tuesday but not quite feeling myself at the moment, im off work from my current job due to anxiety and my doctor has prescribed citrolopram so started taking them on Monday.

I had a recruitment agent ring me monday he had found my cv on a jobsite i use, so i agreed to go for an interview, but been thinking about it since then im not sure if i want to leave my current job, also it means commuting still (i wanted something closer to home as i commute an hour to work every day as it is and thats difficult with me being a lone parent to a 16mth old) plus my current employer lets me work from home if ds is ill or i have appointments.

So i called the agent and explained i dont think i want to go to the interview, but he said the company are so keep to see me they have told him to stop giving him cv's as they like mine so much, so then i felt bad and agreed to look at the job spec and he said he would ring back. Anyway, he just rang and i ignored his call as i just dont know what to do!

I feel really down today and no confidence to go though an interview.

[LuckyUnderpants]

sorry that should say 'go' in the title not 'o'

[hayCHingleBells]

What does the job spec say?
Would it be better than where you are? less stress maybe? or more money?

[Sara85]

Is it going to be a better job/better pay/any less commuting? If not and you don't really want to leave your job you shouldnt be made to feel guilty about no longer wanting the interview. I'm sure there's plenty of people they could find to give the job to who would be suitable.(Not that I'm saying yours is just bog-standard experience,but im sure you know what i mean!)

[LuckyUnderpants]

its bascically requires someone to do everything i have been doing in my current job, its more money, but i wont be able to work from home and the commute is worse than what i do now. Not by distance just because of the area, it notoriously bad in the mornings to get to this place

[skibump]

If you might want the job then it's worth going to have a chat with them and see what you think. You can always specify needing time off to look after ds etc and if they don't like it then say it's not for you then. If you're really sure it won't suit you (the commute etc) then don't waste your precious time.

If it helps with the confidence, they are obviously really impressed so far. Don't undersell youself, and remember an interview is a 2 way process!

[Lazycow]

I once had a job interview for a job, was offered the job but I didn't feel it was the right one for me so turned it down.

They called me up and flattered me and like an idiot I caved in and accepted. I spent the next year regretting taking the job and looking for something else as all the things I thought would be wrong with it were wrong. Go with your instincts and don't let the 'flattery' convince you otherwise. Even if the job is great and well paid, nothing can be done about the commute and the loss of flexibility and for someone with a small child that is a deal breaker.

[hayCHingleBells]

Much more money or just a bit?

It doesnt sound like a wise move at the moment if its just a bit of a payrise. If its loads then i would go for it.

You can always turn it down post interview.

[Sara85]

hmm,thats a toughie.more money is always good i suppose, (shame thats all the world revolves around nowadays!) but if it takes longer to commute and there's absolutely no option to work from home, there's quite a bit to consider. All I can say is it entirely up to you, but please don't feel guilty or let the agent guilt you into going for an interview you really don't want to do.
Just because you made your cv available doesn't mean you HAVE to go to an interview when they ask you to.

ps.sorry to hear you haven't been well, hope you feel better soon

[LuckyUnderpants]

lazycow i think your right, i dont think im ready to leave my current job and they have been so good to me through my pg and with my ds, probably better to be happy with less money, just dot know what im going to say to the pushy agent went he rings again.

[kittylouise]

I think that because you are currently feeling anxious, and have just started taking medication, I wouldn't put yourself through the stress of a job interview. If this new job isn't that much better than your current one, in that your current employer is more flexible, you don't stand to gain much (the money would be nice, but it isn't everything!).

Don't be pressured by the recruitment consultant. Remember that they work on commission, and if he places you in this job he will get a hefty sum. He is looking at it from HIS point of view, not yours. Just tell him that you currently feel unwell and have been signed off by the doctor (don't have to tell him about depression).

It would be much better to go for a job which is (a) perfect, i.e. no commute and (b) at a better time when you are feeling more yourself.

I hope you start to feel better re anxiety soon, as well

[Sara85]

Just tell him that you've looked at the spec and its not suitable in comparison to your current job. As kitty said, they work on commission, he's not bothered about you.

let us know!

[Kif]

go for interview practice - no pressure if you think it is wrong job for you

[LuckyUnderpants]

Under differnt circumstances i would just go for the experience of the interview, but because of my anxiety i know i not going to come across as the confident person that i am, usually. I do feel under pressure and it is adding to my stress at the moment, so not going to go for it, thanks for your advice and nice comments