My partner's alarm!

[Okbussitout]

Just wondering what is reasonable to do with alarms when you and your dh/dp need to or like to get up at different times?

This is probably not one for those with babies and young children as I appreciate they are likely waking you up! But no children in this situation.

Both Wfh, I need more sleep than my partner. I also have some health issues which contribute to this and I'm having a medication change which has left me knackered. He likes to get up earlier than me. Both go to bed at the same time.

He sets multiple alarms. One of which the first at 6am is seemingly just vibrate and I think now it's the 3rd time it's woken me up an not him and I've had to promt him that it's going off.

There will also be multiple alarms between 6 and 7. AIBU to think this isn't on? I don't think it's fair to disturb somone else's sleep like this or is it reasonable to do what you need to do to get up.

This is prompted by a bad night of sleep topped off by his fucking 6am alarm I had to shake him awake to turn off.

I've already told him it's annoying BTW I just wnat to know what others think. Even if AIBU I'm definitely not telling him that!

[namesnamesnamesnames]

Tell him that smart watches buzz for an alarm that's synced to the phone, so he wouldn't need it loudly.

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Ok I talked to him again. Well I basically had a go at him. He said his alarm should not be set to just vibrate or to very low volume (as it seems to be) so it wasn't intentional. He would look at the alarm again and show me the settings and sound it was set to make.

I also said he either need to get up at the first alarm or get up later. He agreed it was inconsiderate and he needed no to do it. He also said he was sorry and understood why I was angry. So I'll se what happens, but lordy if he does it again tomorrow I feel sorry for him. As I'll be furious.

[MadeForThis]

Tell him to buy a Fitbit. It will vibrate on his wrist rather than annoying you.

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@MadeForThis

Tell him to buy a Fitbit. It will vibrate on his wrist rather than annoying you.

He's got a smart watch thing. It was mine and I realised I really didn't like it so gave it to him. I might suggest this. Although I wouldn't find sleeping in a watch comfortable. He's less fussy than me.

[AtLeastThreeDrinks]

Snoozing an alarm is bad for you in general, they jolt your heart every time they go off!

[orishan]

Get a vibrating alarm for under the pillow which wakes him only (I've used one in the past)

[Ragwort]

Can you sleep separately, have you got a spare room?

[Sittingonabench]

Tbh I’m completely like your husband in this regard. I really struggle to wake up in the mornings and usually hit snooze 3 times before I can bring myself round enough to actually engage with anything. There’s a few solutions
Separate beds/rooms - my DH would not accept this
Going to bed earlier - again my DH (and I) like to go to bed at the same time
Trying to nap half way through the day/early evening - I’ve tried it and it doesn’t work great for me but I need more sleep than DH.
We haven’t figured it out so if you find any more tricks let us know.

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Just an update on the alarm. I know you all wnat to know!!

My partner turned off the vibration which seemed to be the thing that woke me up. He woke up with his alarm and I didn't. So the stern talking to worked.