To turn down a 3x salary job?

[Fressia123]

I'm really really torn. Earlier in the year I got offered a job that pays £60k. I couldn't take it as it required relocation. They just got back to me to say they're happy to offer same role, different location but within commuting distance (1 hour drive). My current job pays £21k. I love what I'm building with it but I seriously doubt it will ever get beyond £30k. So it's between loving my company/job and the £££s. I'm absolutely torn.

[Fressia123]

Thank you! I emailed the recruiter too and told her I really appreciated all of their time and that I had a brilliant recruiting experience.

I'm also grateful in an odd way because it gave me closure.

[Notcoolmum]

@Fressia123

Success! I've spoken to my CEO and have a timeline, base salary (which reached my expectations) and commission on top. And I got it all in writing!!

Excellent news. Well done OP!!

[Fressia123]

@nancydrawn you're 100% correct. In that regard I don't think it should be me who has to make all the sacrifices in the family.

Ye the £1k pay increase was a total slap in the face but have they explained things to me I would have had a different reaction.

With my new title I got a couple of interviews so I think my "new skillset" is more transferable within the local job market. I took that into consideration when declining this job offer.

[KitKat1985]

I'd take it without a doubt. An hours commute isn't that bad, and that's a huge improvement in salary.

[Nancydrawn]

ILoveAllRainbowsx nonsense.

I also remembered a few posts the OP has made recently about wishing she could have a bigger house and wishing she could afford childcare (not from snooping, just memory). And, most importantly, the post she very recently made where she talked about how frustrated and angry she was that she had been given a huge number of responsibilities and a £1000 pay rise. In that context, I thought it was obvious that she should take the higher-paying job, even if it meant a few sacrifices.

Since then, she's had a good talk with her CEO and most importantly gotten a written declaration of their intentions. Now, a bird in the hand is worth two in the bush, and she's still taking a massive risk by trusting this declaration (particularly when her trust has been broken recently). But, she knows the situation far better than we do, and it's her risk to take.

There are no claws and no jealousy. (As Heels said, claws is a particularly silly little piece of misogyny.) I wish the OP all the best and I hope this works out for her.

[HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]

@ILoveAllRainbowsx Women exchanging opinion on discursive forum is not claws out or jealousy. Women can and should have debate and tolerate dissonant opinions. Women shouldn’t demean Other women by making tired tropes about claws or jealousy, it’s a way of immediately closing down other women by questioning the legitimacy and content of the posts
Phrases such as
Claws out
Jealousy
Or the other cracker bitchfest

And this fawning over, man has spoken is a bit pukey. Thanking him, Oh could hug him. Op plenty people have directly agreed with you,writing affirmative posts. Did you personally thank them too?

@YankeeDad thanks for mansplaining how mn works
You post was cheesy motivational speaker and man swings in to save damsel

[Fressia123]

Thanks @YankeeDad I feel like if I could give you a hug I would.

[HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]

@desnol the op has categorically stated she’s staying in the current post

[Desnol]

I'd do two things in your place:-

1. ask the agent for a copy of the employment contract so your solicitor can review it and advise you.
   
2. Once you have all the info, do a pros and cons analysis on paper, and how much you personally value each item.
   
   For example, I always valued long holidays and often purchased an extra couple of weeks per year. Flexibility is another important feature of good jobs. My experience is that either you have plenty of money and no time, or plenty of time and no money. There's very few jobs that offer you a happy middle.
   
   But money is pretty important too. Work out how much money and free time you need and then go for that, even if you don't take up this particular job, or stay in your current role.
   
   Remember that money can't compensate you for unhealthy work conditions, e.g. constant long hours, shift work, no flexibility, stress of a long commute, etc. That kind of an environment only saps your confidence and wellbeing.
   
   I have a feeling that you've had enough of your current job. You might enjoy the work, but heck, they can't pay you in job satisfaction units instead of money - we all only work for money. Good luck! Do post what you decide to do.

[LindaL1]

@mindutopia I sent you a PM. Would love to know more about your commute. I’m in a similar situation and it’s hard. Thanks

[Singlenotsingle]

YANBU to stop and think about it, but you should take it. It sounds as though they really want you. If you don't want it, I'll have it!

[HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]

You are somewhat overstating the dilemma there @YankeeDad
She’s been offered a big salary increase not eternal life and Geokinesis

[YankeeDad]

Who can say hand on heart, if a headhunter called and offered a position paying 3x their current salary, even if they loved their current job, they would not return the call and go through the recruitment process, just to see whether the offer would come through, and then feel somewhat conflicted if it did?

OP sounded genuinely torn between the options, obtained some support from various people responding on the thread, thought it through, and got to a decision. Isn’t that what this forum is supposed to be for?

Apologies for the mansplaining. But it just feels as though there are loads of attacks on the OP from a variety of angles, without the usual countervailing defence from other posters, and for some reason, I feel the need to defend her even though we have never met and do not and probably will even know one another’s names.

Maybe it’s because I feel a genuine respect and admiration for someone who has the courage and the wisdom not to let herself become a thrall to money, even in the face of such a substantial temptation.

[Fressia123]

Yes but the recruiters weren't completely transparent from the start. They become your cheerleaders and wouldn't say lie but imply you can move around the corporation.
The whole hiring process is pretty much line going to uni. Lots of tests and a panel interview. I still feel like passing all of those filters were a nassive accomplishment. But life changes, mine definitely did in the past 7-8 months.
When I applied I thought that all I really wanted was a better paying job, but that has changed over time.

[MarthasGinYard]

It's always the same

[HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]

Yes and as part of being head hunted was interviewed,met the recruiter and expressed interest in the post

[Catmaiden]

She was headhunted!

[HeelsHandbagPerfumeCoffee]

I don’t think it’s a look at me thread, although I do think it’s a bit tiresome as op has clearly got emotional ties and has no intention of leaving her current post
Essentially 16 pages of been I’ve offered a huge salary increase but I proper love my current job and I’m going to effuse how great it is

Leaving everyone wondering if it’s that great and the only sector you want to work in why did you apply for a new post

[Catmaiden]

@YeaSure, have you rtft? And seen the OP was, until recently, on this kind of money? She got made redundant and took so a lower paid job.

[YeaSure]

Sounds like a little bit of a "look at me, I can earn 60k, but like my easy life" type of thread.

Just take the job, I'd do it.
Then again I'm a teacher, never to earn more than 40k a year without leadership positions which are a life drain.

[Catmaiden]

Good for you, OP.

[Fressia123]

@2littleguineas I'm also making the difference because at interview stage they did make it obvious that there was a difference between the two.

When I started this thread I was a lot more torn. I'm not anymore.

I've also decided against getting the MSc. I'm not saying it the wrong path, but definitely the wrong time.

[SummerHouse]

Stick or twist? I would stick. Money doesn't interest me and Amazon is not a company I would want to work for. It's too much of a gamble for the sake of £. Stick with an industry that you love. And live well.

[youvegottenminuteslynn]

Maybe they'll step up and give you a Christmas bonus. It just sounds like they've been carrot dangling for a while, so keep your wits about you and if you see jobs elsewhere that offer more reasonable pay and the same or more benefits, don't avoid applying out of misguided loyalty as while you obvious like working there they haven't shown you tangibly how valued you are. Good luck, hopefully whatever happens this time next year you'll be getting the pay and benefits you deserve!