WWYD.. people sitting behind our garden

[Timechangeseverything]

Hi as the title says really, for the past 4 or 5 days there have been some people meeting up behind our back garden, not a problem in general but they come from about 8/9 and still there at 1am.

I wouldn't mind if they were quieter tbh but they are so loud, singing sometimes and shouting over each other. I think they are having a drink together really.

The problem is my kids bedrooms are at the back and they have been waking a lot these past few nights, when they wouldn't normally.

It was getting to me, but didnt want to approach them as I don't know how they would react tbh.

But tonight I have just heard a child calling mum and heard crying so I looked out and could see a child of maybe 8? Shouting, dad says you must come home now, he sent me to get you. Then more shouting mum,mum. I am tired please come on!
All the while the mum and others are laughing as though it is all a big joke.
Kid then cries and I see a man,guessing his dad coming and taking the kid back home.

It made me feel really awful witnessing that.

What should I do, if anything?

I should add my childhood was a bit..turbulent. So I'm not sure if this really is such an awful thing or if I'm right in feeling it is just so wrong.

That was long! Sorry!

[LadyEloise]

How are things now Timechangeseverything ?

[Timechangeseverything]

Well no one was there last night so here's hoping tonight will be the same 🤞

[LadyEloise]

@lifestooshort123
In the first post it was a child calling out to his Mum not his Dad, asking his Mum to come home. The child was crying.
So sad.

[lifestooshort123]

Please don't call the police - this is a minor irritation and can be dealt with without involving them. Presumably they live in the flats so are not trespassing, just having a jolly time with no concern for their neighbours (you). Make the place stink so they move along the fence to become someone else's problem or set up a garden sprinkler that just over shoots your fence soaking where they usually sit. Leave it on all night for a couple nights so they know not to mess with you. The child calling for his dad is neither here nor there as presumably he was at home with mum? Don't sink to their level by using radios or other noise or your neighbours will be irritated! Good luck.

[Confrontayshunme]

We have this as part of our neighbour's back garden is next to a park. They let kids play in the park while they smoke, drink beer and leave rubbish on our land. A large super soaker has done the trick several times.

[SleepOhHowIMissYou]

Light a bonfire. Your damp weeds will make it smoky when it gets going. Incinerator dustbin type burners are quite cheap to buy.

[WildNorthEast]

How's your evening so far @Timechangeseverything?

[Timechangeseverything]

Yea same I do feel for the kid still..not sure what to think tbh.

I think I may water the area too in a few hours then hopefully it'll be too wet for them to sit there.

[Stannisbaratheonsboxofmatches]

I feel so sorry for the child though.

Is it that the dad refused to put them to bed, do you think?

[Timechangeseverything]

Wow thanks everyone!
So I think the something smelly is a good idea, and most popular 😆

I have gathered some nettles / weeds and soaked them since morning, should I just pour it where they normally sit?

There is flats behind our garden and car park, they are sitting just under some trees.

@alcalavicci I am sooo glad it's not that 😳

[Frankola]

Call the police anonymously.
I want to know what's behind your garden and why they want to sit there?!

[AlCalavicci]

@mummmy2017
I love that idea but I would go one further , I would set up 4 or 5 radios in different inaccessible ( to them ) spots and use each one in turn to eavesdrop or join in the conversation. all OPs neighbours could do the same so there is 15 or 20 radios all joining in .

@Timechangeseverything
However you could be worst , you could have this issue , this thread went on for a couple of weeks and was voted for classics very quickly and oddly almost at the same time of year as yours .

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/mumsnet_classics/3288349-people-keep-having-sex-in-my-hedge?msgid=79093087

[PigletJohn]

Jeys Fluid is a much better idea. It is not filthy, and if anyone grumbles, you can say that the area smelt of urine (which is not unusual with late-night drinkers)

[RoobyMyrtle]

@BlankTimes

Put some weeds and/or grass clippings in a bucket of water
I once enthusiastically made some natural nettle fertiliser (nettles soaked in a lidded container)
Note I did it once

I do it all the time with weeds before I compost them. My neighbours hate me 😂

[BlackeyedSusan]

You could water the area earlier in the day.

[Nanny0gg]

What is the land behind your garden?

And report for a welfare checl

[Beautiful3]

I would call 101 next time. But say it's a welfare check as you're concerned about a small boy crying wanting to go home to bed, while a group of adults are drinking. That would prompt them to come out.

[mumwon]

make sure the area is thoroughly wet - use bathwater & put up(fake) cctv with big official (looking) notice

[BlankTimes]

Put some weeds and/or grass clippings in a bucket of water
I once enthusiastically made some natural nettle fertiliser (nettles soaked in a lidded container)
Note I did it once

[Thinkingabout1t]

I would ring police, and council to report noise (can you record it?). But also social services because of the child. Good luck. Antisocial ‘neighbours’ are hell.

[mummmy2017]

Get a pair of radios.
The kids will love them.
You can plant one in the hedge at night.
If you turn it on you can listen in the add to the conversation.
Will freek them out.

[RoobyMyrtle]

Put some weeds and/or grass clippings in a bucket of water. It will rot down I to a liquid that smells worse than Hades. Great for your plants, not so good for anyone sitting nearby 😉

[Bahhhhhumbug]

Trouble is during lockdown peoples social habits have drastically changed, people couldn't go to pubs for a long time and now only under strict conditions, appts system, etc etc so some people simply haven't bothered going back and have stayed with the 'new going out' being staying in, having a few people in your garden or meeting a group outside. Our local park is full every fine night and day of people sat on the grass having drinks, a picnic or young lads with tins of beer, a radio playing etc. I can't let my dog off lead as l always had pre Covid for fear of her stepping on a glass or thinking 'ooh ham sandwiches' I feareven once the pubs get back to normal a lot of people, for the milder weather at least will stick to this new socialising as its way cheaper for one. Our park has a no drinking alcohol order so lm hoping if that's the case the police/local council will start to police this as many of these groups get quite rowdy and anti social and it's spoiling it for others.
Where are these people sitting btw? They must have somewhere to sit to be staying so long.

[WhereYouLeftIt]

If they're sitting behind your garden, and they're clearly not in a neighbouring garden - where actually are they? Is it a park, a street, a field?

I would wonder if 'business' is being conducted - drugs.

[UselessTrees]

Bluetooth speaker concealed on your side of the fence. Playlist of menacing whispers at random intervals.

If that doesn't shift them, it's time to put on your killer clown outfit.