Going behind my SIL's back?

[UserLibra78]

Long story short my OH and his two sisters were given his late mother's house. One of his sister is keen to sell, the other is thinking of keeping it to rent but is not capable financially. My OH and I are actually thinking of buying another house to rent so that in a couple of years time, our ds will be able to either stay/resell.

I spoke to my dad and he is adamant about not telling them and just deal with the estate agent. I am in two minds about it as my OH and his sisters are close and I hate to put him in the situation where he will feel like he is "betraying them". However if I were to tell them now that I am interested in buying the house, they will 100% turn around and say they have decided not to sell after all.

I am sure if my MIL is still alive she will not hesitate to sell it to me, so that we will keep it in the family. But since she is gone my SIL's, who are both very vocal and domineering, will not hesitate in demanding a higher price from me. The reason why I am keen on the house is that it in in perfect location, very good price to rent and my mil had look after the house. I am sure this house is a good investment and not expected to sell anytime soon should we bought it. We will be using my OH equity to tide over any unexpected shortfalls.

What do you guys think is the best way to approach this? Should I follow my dad and jus lt offer the market price? Or should I let them know I am interested at the risk of losing this house and incur a higher price tag?

Thanks

[Notcoolmum]

Why would the house be 'yours' when your partner already owns 1/3rd of it?

[Wecandothis99]

God no that's really underhand and could ruin the family!

[lyralalala]

I love that it's not worth the hassle because a few people on Mumsnet picked up inconsistencies in your story, but it was worth causing WWII in your OH's family

That's amusing

[UserLibra78]

@SandyY2K

All these statements indicate it's you buying the host on your own.

I'm not sure I believe your married tbh and need not your DP... as I think you world have mentioned that in your first post as it's quite important

You've changed your story to sorry what you want.

Why are your late FILS and MILS property the icky ones your van buy to invest in?

You must know this situation is going to cause problems and want to go full steam ahead.

The way you come across shows the kind of person you are and you're subplot putting an investment above family relationships.

It's not worth falling out over money... I've seen this happen with my DHs family when my MIL passed away.

Money really is the root of all evil.

This is like when someone gets into a relationship with their Exes friend..or sister and I just think of all the millions of single people on the planet why...just think why does it have to be that person.

Your reasons for wanting this house aren't worth the hassle.

Now I am lying about my status?

OH well.

I will be responding to the part with regards to the house sale from now. You guys are right about one thing. The house is indeed not worth the hassle.

[SandyY2K]

All these statements indicate it's you buying the host on your own.

I'm not sure I believe your married tbh and need not your DP... as I think you world have mentioned that in your first post as it's quite important

You've changed your story to sorry what you want.

Why are your late FILS and MILS property the icky ones your van buy to invest in?

You must know this situation is going to cause problems and want to go full steam ahead.

The way you come across shows the kind of person you are and you're subplot putting an investment above family relationships.

It's not worth falling out over money... I've seen this happen with my DHs family when my MIL passed away.

Money really is the root of all evil.

This is like when someone gets into a relationship with their Exes friend..or sister and I just think of all the millions of single people on the planet why...just think why does it have to be that person.

Your reasons for wanting this house aren't worth the hassle.

[UserLibra78]

@lyralalala

Oh my god I have already explained that the purchasing part is due to the money coming from my dad. The house will belongs to OH and me. Why is it so hard to understand?

On Page 1 you basically said it was nothing to do with your OH

That's why people are sceptical of your sudden insistence that your OH is the main instigator

If this is the part "Hi is not a joint purchase is mine (my dad is giving me the money)" - my second post, I had already explained in the subsequent post that the financial contribution will be 100% mine to get the house. But once I purchased the house, my OH will reroute the proceeds from the splits into renovate the house.

My very first post : "My OH and I are thinking of buying a house to rent as a side project".

Either way it doesn't matter now. OH will let them know the interest to buy is there, along wth the price.

[UserLibra78]

@Leflic

I asked before why you don’t just rent out the house and divide the profits/ expenses?

Everyone gets an income and it gives the family time to work out what they actually want or need. Why are you so set on it? You can buy your son a house anyway. Those are your DH dusters you are trying to shaft.

One of the SIL want to sell it quick for cash. No intention of keeping it. Nobody wants the hassle of dealing with tenants.

Who do you think is going to deal with the tenants and estate agents?

[UserLibra78]

@monkeymonkey2010

have you thought about what would happen to your dh and his family relations if you were deceptive?
The fact that you're thinking of deliberately deceiving someone else - over something as shallow as money - should be ringing warnin bells of 'no' in your belly?!!!!

Knowing the history of my SILs, he suggested the move of simply just dealing with the estate agents
yea- once the house is up for sale and has agents managing the sale!

Before you can get to that stage your dh needs to speak to and get the agreement of his siblings to sell.
Otherwise he will have to go to court to fight for sale legally, which will hit your own pockets.

If selling is agreed, the fairest thing to do is get the market value and then discuss a reduction.
Personally, i don't see why you should be able to buy it at a reduced price - thereby cheating them out of their full share of inheritance.......and only your family benefit from the full value of the property.

It's greedy, deceitful and you will get found out if you do it......time always tells.....

Multiple posts I had mentioned that no reduction on the house value will be in discussion. The house will go on the market and I will be buying the house at the house value with the proceed from my OH being rerouted into renovate the house.

Which part of my post mentioned that I want the house with a, reduction in price?

[monkeymonkey2010]

have you thought about what would happen to your dh and his family relations if you were deceptive?
The fact that you're thinking of deliberately deceiving someone else - over something as shallow as money - should be ringing warnin bells of 'no' in your belly?!!!!

Knowing the history of my SILs, he suggested the move of simply just dealing with the estate agents
yea- once the house is up for sale and has agents managing the sale!

Before you can get to that stage your dh needs to speak to and get the agreement of his siblings to sell.
Otherwise he will have to go to court to fight for sale legally, which will hit your own pockets.

If selling is agreed, the fairest thing to do is get the market value and then discuss a reduction.
Personally, i don't see why you should be able to buy it at a reduced price - thereby cheating them out of their full share of inheritance.......and only your family benefit from the full value of the property.

It's greedy, deceitful and you will get found out if you do it......time always tells.....

[Leflic]

I asked before why you don’t just rent out the house and divide the profits/ expenses?

Everyone gets an income and it gives the family time to work out what they actually want or need. Why are you so set on it? You can buy your son a house anyway. Those are your DH dusters you are trying to shaft.

[lyralalala]

Oh my god I have already explained that the purchasing part is due to the money coming from my dad. The house will belongs to OH and me. Why is it so hard to understand?

On Page 1 you basically said it was nothing to do with your OH

That's why people are sceptical of your sudden insistence that your OH is the main instigator

[UserLibra78]

@lyralalala

Which part of the "story" have. I change?

Originally it was you purchasing with your Dad and nothing to do with your OH

Suddenly it was all his wish as soon as the replies were going against you

It's his family. His relationship with his sisters. Leave well alone and stop trying to get one over on the sisters in your weird competition with them

Oh my god I have already explained that the purchasing part is due to the money coming from my dad. The house will belongs to OH and me. Why is it so hard to understand?

My OH does not suddenly develop an interest, I explained on the previous post that he is the one asking me for the option of buying the house. That's when I got involved.

Sometimes I do wonder if some of the posters here have a SIL that they hate, and they are trying to projecting themselves in the same kind of situation, should the SIL is involved in trying to steal their Pil's house.

[Rachie1973]

Anyone with half a brain would leave this house be in your position.

Their is clearly little sentiment involved. It’s cold hard cash. That’s fine, but not at grieving families expense.

[Shortfeet]

It’s simple.

You don’t like your sisters in law.
They don’t like you and won’t want to sell you the house.

So you can’t buy the house.

[TheSparklyPussycat]

Has the estate of the deceased been distributed yet? Was there other wealth apart from the house?

[lyralalala]

Which part of the "story" have. I change?

Originally it was you purchasing with your Dad and nothing to do with your OH

Suddenly it was all his wish as soon as the replies were going against you

It's his family. His relationship with his sisters. Leave well alone and stop trying to get one over on the sisters in your weird competition with them

[UserLibra78]

@Notcoolmum

You change your story at every question OP.

Which part of the "story" have. I change?

Does everybody on here think that whoever that started the thread has, a hidden agenda instead of solely asking for advice?

[UserLibra78]

@Notcoolmum

You change your story at every question OP.

Is not a joint purchase because I am the one who is doing the purchasing because I am the one who will be paying for it but it belongs to the both of us?

[Notcoolmum]

You change your story at every question OP.

[lyralalala]

Hi again my OH is the one seek out my opinion and advice. And I try to help him by asking my dad.

Why am I being portray as a meddle? If my OH did not ask for my inputs I will never have ask my dad for his help.

Probably because of comments like Hi is not a joint purchase is mine (my dad is giving me the money). where you suggested it was nothing to do with your OH

[UserLibra78]

@Notcoolmum

Your language is really strange. It won't be your house bought with your family money. It would be a marital asset of which your husband already owns 1/3rd.

Leave it to your husband to decide. You can purchase another investment property if he chooses not to proceed with this one. It's not your business to upset a difficult family situation. How would you feel if your husband did something similar that would cause issues between you and your family?

Hi again my OH is the one seek out my opinion and advice. And I try to help him by asking my dad.

Why am I being portray as a meddle? If my OH did not ask for my inputs I will never have ask my dad for his help.

[Notcoolmum]

Your language is really strange. It won't be your house bought with your family money. It would be a marital asset of which your husband already owns 1/3rd.

Leave it to your husband to decide. You can purchase another investment property if he chooses not to proceed with this one. It's not your business to upset a difficult family situation. How would you feel if your husband did something similar that would cause issues between you and your family?

[UserLibra78]

@AllsortsofAwkward

You're not involved no wonder they don't like you it's between the three of them. Let them have it Jesus you're enjoying this far too much and have a hidden agenda.

Hi I explained on my previous post that my OH is the one sound out the option of buying the house in the first place. He is asking for my opinion and input as his wife and partner in life. Whatever decision he made will impact upon his family.

Then I went to ask my dad what should I do. He gave me his opinion and the financial support. Knowing the history of my SILs, he suggested the move of simply just dealing with the estate agents.

So when I say I. I was mainly thinking about how can I do to enhance the chance of OH getting the house. I feel that the way I had been portray is someone who just want to grab the house for her own financial gains, while leaving her own OH to stew with his sisters. This is simply not the case.

We will not living in this house should we get it. We have plans to rent it to someone that as part of the rent reduction agreement, will look after the house until my ds can take over. He will either live in or sell, is up to him.

[AllsortsofAwkward]

You're not involved no wonder they don't like you it's between the three of them. Let them have it Jesus you're enjoying this far too much and have a hidden agenda.

[lyralalala]

Should I just let them have it or insist on selling it?

You should quietly support your husband while he sorts out the issue with his family home and his sisters