AIBU to think BLW isn't ideal for chokey/spluttery DS? Confused!

[Peterbishopssarcasticsmile]

Health visitor very very keen on baby led weaning, as was I originally, but DS is a real cough/choke/splutterer due to reflux, which is making me very very nervous about giving him finger food. He has a habit of trying to ram his fists so far down his throat he sometimes coughs, so I dread to think what he would be like with a carrot stick (even if it was really meltingly soft).

I was going to start out with purees for a short while and gradually thicken them up, then introduce finger food but health visitor really shut me down and wouldn't discuss this, just kept saying 'there's no need' and not really reassuring me about my concerns or explaining why.
I wasn't going to go for the pouches, although my mum bought us a load bless her but they last so will use those as emergencies or if we need to travel with them. I was going to puree up veg myself to start with, but now I'm feeling unsure as to what route to go down.
AIBU to think purees are still okay to go ahead with? The HV acted like I would pretty much be poisoning him!

[Howyahun]

I misread this and had visions of you baby protesting

[Sandybval]

I was planning on doing BLW but ended up doing traditional, just a combo of puree and offering some finger foods with meals. It worked fine, DS was eating solids well by about 10 months, despite what the books say about it making it hard for them to learn unless you stick to their rules. Go with your gut instinct, do purees and maybe offer some finger foods if you feel that is what will be best for you and your little one. Their gag reflex is further forward than an adults so it can seem scary when they appear to be struggling, but it's important to know the difference between that and actual choking and what to do just in case. Also a lot of rubbish about purees as usual on here.

[Connie222]

Stop seeing the health visitor and do what feels right for your baby.

It’s ones like that that give HVs a bad name. It doesn’t matter what she’s ‘very very keen on’. Its your baby.

(Grrr sorry but they piss me off. Never saw one after ds1 was a couple of months old).

[voxnihili]

My DD (22 months) was terrible to wean as she’d gag on anything and be sick most mealtimes. I started weaning at 6 months and it took almost 6 months for her to eat something. Initially I started with BLW, then homemade purées. I was getting so stressed with spending ages making stuff for her to refuse or make herself sick that I moved to pouches. There was still the waste but at least I didn’t feel so disheartened (I was recovering from quite severe PND so stress was not helpful).

Incidentally it was an all inclusive holiday just before DD’s first birthday that got her eating. Not sure why, maybe because I wasn’t stressed as I hadn’t spent ages preparing it! She’s now nearly 2 and you wouldn’t know what a hideous time we’d had with weaning - she eats most things now.

[LynnThese4reSEXPEOPLE]

My 4 year old started with whole bananas, purees and toast. My younger one with purees moving to lumpy foods within a month. Both are adventurous eaters. I do find the 7 month old copes less well with lumps when tired. When your baby starts showing an interest in self feeding e.g. grabbing the spoon, give them something to practice with as well as the spoonfed meal e.g. melty sticks/toast fingers/bits of soft fruit/slice of avocado. They will gradually eat more themselves and the nature of the feeding will change. Please don't worry - just give them the chance to practice hand/eye coordination and DC will be fine 😁