To end a friendship over this?

[ACNH]

Sharing the contents of a text message conversation between you with at least 2 other people, one of which you don’t know?

I’m talking about screen shorting and sending it to them.

[TitianaTitsling]

If it was something like 'ive just seen Betty's DH who ran off and abandoned the kids and no one knows where he is in the local Tesco with my sil, but don't tell Betty' (highly dramatical and unlikely this is it) Then I would say it is ok to pass that on, is it something this dramatical or have you just said something like 'Bettys new lockdown haircut is awful, but l said it looks good- don't tell her I said that'.

[schoolsoutforcovid]

So you said "don't tell Gill but I don't like her car"

And she screen shot that to Gill then screenshot you Gill's response?

[Cherrysoup]

You specifically asked her not to share with someone she then shared it with? I’d be fuming.

[Horsemad]

OP, never put ANYTHING in writing that you aren't absolutely prepared to defend/explain/justify should the need arise.

[Ace86]

YANBU, is she usually a bit of a shit stirrer?

[converseandjeans]

YANBU it should be kept private. However always be careful with what you write on messenger/text/WhatsApp as it can always be forwarded on.
ACNH my DD just got addicted to the game Animal Crossing. I assume that's your user name?

[Viviennemary]

.impossible to say without knowing what the message was and the background.

[CatBatCat]

Fucking dripfeed.

[Ukelele3]

It's kinda hard to say without knowing what kind of thing it was. If you were directly saying something about "Alice" and/or said something and told your friend to not tell anyone/Alice, and she forwarded it to Alice, then yes I'd end the friendship as it's nothing without trust (takes a long time to form and seconds to break).. but if she forwarded it completely out of social clumsiness (oblivious that it would cause issues), then I'd be inclined to forgive her. You'd probably know her well enough to be able to decide if this was the straw the broke the camel's back or a genuine one-off error.

[elfycat]

I one got a friend to look at an entire years worth of text messages/messenger messages that another friend had sent me. I was trying to work out WTF was going on.

My reading friend correctly assessed that I was being gaslighted and bullied and that I wasn't going mad or being offensive at all. Funnily I did end the friendship soon after.

It is all in the context. Share a joke, meme or similar - no problem. A photo of your cute godchild that you're very fond of and is the same as showing a picture of your own child. A series of abusive twattery that you need another opinion on to understand - can;t see the problem in that.

If it's medical, or about your relationships (with any other person not just romantic) then there might be a line crossed.

[NeutrinoWrangler]

If someone went directly against my stated wishes to keep something from someone else, purely because they wanted to stir things up or did anything with what I felt was the intention of hurting or belittling me that person would no longer be a friend.

[66redballons]

Bin her, you will always be on guard now. Not work passing time with back biters,

[slashlover]

Ok so to add another layer to it, what if you specifically said you didn’t want one of the people to know what you said?

This is the most important part so should have been in your post. With this YANBU.

[Eckhart]

If you're asking the question, the trust is broken. It doesn't matter what anybody here thinks.

[StrictlyAFemaleFemale]

You can end a relationship of any sort for any or no reason. You dont need the approval of strangers on the internet.

Would I do the same? It would depend entirely on the content of the messages and who they were shared with.

[crispysausagerolls]

Ffs why do people post these stupid vague situations no one can actually advise on?! For attention?!

[redcarbluecar]

I suppose you might consider cooling a friendship if there was no trust there. Is this salvageable? Could you have a frank discussion with your friend about it?

[allfacepalmedout]

Oh dear. That's not really the action of a friend, is it?

[ACNH]

@ChicCroissant it’s more about a situation than a person and not unfavourable. It’s just the kind of thing you would say to a friend but not someone you did not consider a friend.

@Glowcat exactly.

[Glowcat]

From your later post it sounds like she’s a stirrer. You say ‘Please don’t tell Kate’ and she not only tells Kate but then tells you what Kate thought about it? Life’s too short for that shit.

[amijustparanoidorjuststoned]

OP, please could we have some more of a backstory and context? It's hard to make a real judgement here without some more information!

[ChicCroissant]

I take it your message was about one of the people that it was forwarded to and not in a favourable way?

[redcarbluecar]

I’d never end a friendship lightly, and there’s not a lot of information here. So, depends on content of message and motivation of sender.

[Samtsirch]

So it sounds like you already know the answer to your own question OP.