My PIL are lovely people and I do care deeply about them but I find them suffocating. They don?t work and have very few interests beyond DH and I and SIL. In the past, we have seen a lot of them and probably had them over every other weekend for a meal and to stay over. Whilst fun, this always involved a lot of work for me and late nights and a lot of booze. Now I am pregnant, and in a high risk pregnancy, I just cannot cope with the exertion and even worse, I feel that they constantly stress me out. MIL calls me nearly every night for an "update" and its always when I've just got in from work and she now expects to see us every weekend and gets huffy if I say we are busy.
It has been like this since DH and I married in June 2006. Every time we saw them after that it was ?why aren?t you pg yet? then we lost a baby in March, told them and still got ?why aren?t you pg again? every week until at 6 weeks we told them this time to end the stress but it hasn?t ended it and it just mounts up. I harbour really negative feelings and worry that it?ll only get worse when out baby arrives. I probably am being unreasonable but if anyone has any tips for keeping things on an even keel and not falling out with them, I?d love to hear them. My own family are all far away so until DH and I got together 6 years ago, I was used to my precious weekends being just that.
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MrsMcJnr · 03/09/2007 16:38
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