distance myself after cheating

[frenchmartini28]

Hello, I have posted on 'relationships' as well, I just want as much advice as possible. I'm 29 and have been with my bf for 4 years. A couple of years ago I found out he had kissed & was sexting a member of his extended family (not related btw) my problem was & still is that because of who it was with its very difficult for me to attend his family get-togethers as there's a chance she could be there. I always tell my bf to go so he can spend time with his family but he doesn't. Here lies the problem...I get the impression he makes it out to his family he is 'not allowed to go' which I have never said! He makes this puppy dog sad face & I look like a bully. I chose to get back with him although I don't think I can forgive & forget what he did, it's the humiliation I think (especially as everyone knows what he did & who with) I can't see how we'll ever have a normal relationship again. I think his family are starting to dislike me now as I'm coming across as rude but I'm not i'm just struggling. Bf works ridicoulous hours, I hardly see him & when I do we bicker. I'm not getting any younger & I'd like to have children but not with someone who's family give me anxiety. Am I being unreasonable not going to dinners, party's? Thank you in advance

[Decidewhattobeandgobeit]

I voted yabu because you have stayed with him, if there are no kids and his just a bf leave and meet someone who doesn’t lie and cheat

[frenchmartini28]

You are right, I'm not being fair on myself or him. In the past he has emotionally blackmailed me saying things like it isn't worth him living if I end it but I can't let that keep me here. If I meant that much to him he wouldn't have done it in the first place surely.

[FetchezLaVache]

Well, quite!