So, some months ago I made a kind of self-care promise to myself that I would not be hosting Christmas this year. This is because I’ve had a struggle with weekly migraines and also with low mood which can be worsened by relationship tensions, and DH and I never get on well when we host my family for Christmas. I get tense with the responsibility and DH gets annoyed/upset with me. We have two young DC under 5. My mum lives an hour away from us and my sister further from us both, and sister only has a 1 bed flat. My mum and sister want to come to me, as they do every year. I asked Mum if we could go to her for the day, but she has said no because she has an ongoing bad back, and even if we do all the work she will end up doing more than is good for her back if we go to hers. She made it clear to me that her days of hosting Christmas are over, which I think is fair enough. So what to do now? I want my DC to see their Grandma & Aunty, so I guess I just have to suck it up and host? My dream Xmas is not to host and to get to have a walk in the countryside (I live in the city, though my mum lives in the countryside). I know it’s all about compromise though. But I guess I feel it’s never a compromise, it’s always just assumed I will host...
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