I’ll keep this short but I’ve invited my mum and brother over for Christmas Day with me my kids and my partner and his kids. Since my dad died over 5 years ago my mum has never spent Christmas with me. At first I got it. Too many memories. She chose instead to go on holiday with my brother (single with no kids) every year. This year she can’t go away. She was diagnosed with very early breast cancer which is awful and stressful but it’s not spread and she is on medication tablets only. So I asked her over but said no pressure you just do what you feel comfortable with. I’d already invited my partner over before I knew her diagnosis. I offered to cancel him but she said no don’t change your plans but she says she can’t come to me because she is too sad about my dad. I was feeling bad for her up till then. I feel it’s just an excuse now? She only has my kids as grandkids and hasn’t spent a Christmas with them for ages. Missed all their carol concerts and nativities. I’ve been ok about it tho felt sad for them. They don’t seem to notice anymore.
She lives over an hour from me so I can just pop in to see her sadly. I’ve offered to pick her up and drive her to mine but she won’t commit she just says it’s too much for her. She’ll happily drive to my brothers in London and has been on loads of holidays this year,some long haul. But she hasn’t been to my house for over a year now despite invites as she says it’s too far to drive and she can’t ask my brother as he works so hard! AIBU??? Happy to be told to stop being an idiot. Just feeling a little annoyed at her right now.
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Can’t get my mum to commit to Christmas plans
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dalmationdotty · 27/11/2019 13:38
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