Escorting to make ends meet

[secretlife81]

Just that really. I hate it. I absolutely hate it. But what else can I do?!

[outherealone]

I’m having trauma therapy atm too. I can’t imagine how it would work if I was then going out to get fucked by strangers for money. Please look after yourself and your body and your head. You are precious and have been through too much.
I’m assuming the trauma and dv have put in a place of dissociation from your physical self. I don’t know but it’s worryi.
Can’t you do something lie self employed cleaning if you really don’t want to do a salaried 9-5?
Not necessarily cleaning but not continuously getting used by men

[Butterymuffin]

Good luck

[Katgurl]

I am so happy to read your update op. I was in tears reading the previous posts. Please do not feel ashamed though; you were trying to provide for your children.

[Patroclus]

the Job Centre does courses and schemes if you wanted to go freelance as well

[ThePortIsSunny]

Take your time op, well done in getting help and getting the ball rolling. Take as much time as you need to heal & be kind to yourself.

When you're ready these 2 sites advertise short temp contracts
www.ten2two.org/

[Patroclus]

Surely freelance stuff for management consulting is doable and well payed? maybe start another thread on here to find the right people and how to get started on your on terms?

[DaisyDreaming]

Do you think your depression might improve when you stop escorting? I can see how your stuck in a vicious cycle

[NotEnoughTime]

Best of luck OP

Are you taking the piss Sstorm I hope you are. No one is that naive surely

[Sstorm]

Wish i had the body for it myself! Good money, short hours.. Why not?

[Confusedbeetle]

It is going to make things worse

[secretlife81]

Thanks

Patro, I'm not sure anyone thought it was about dinner. I have been taken for dinner as part of a booking but it always ended in sex. I didn't really see any naivety from anyone who posted. Just very supportive people.

My experience is in management consulting x

[Patroclus]

Could you say what sort of office work you did or anything else you have experience of OP?

[Patroclus]

The naivety on here. Esorts are protitutes. No difference. Very rarely is 'dinner' involved ffs. Achingly liberal types will tell you its just a job but it isnt. Considerin your state of mind it will destroy you.

[itsAlmostXmas]

That's great OP. How are you feeling?

[Hellofromtheotherside2020]

Well done lovely

[Yarboosucks]

Yay! Good news, I really hope that you get the support that you need.
Be kind to yourself and take care

[secretlife81]

Thank you autumn x

[AutumnCrow]

Good for you, and sorry if that sounds trite, but definitely 👍

[secretlife81]

I just came back to this thread and wanted to give an update. I haven't met anyone since writing my original thread. I've signed on the UC, the housing list, and I've told my trauma therapist about everything.

I think this is a good example of Mumsnet working xxx

[Texaspie]

You have children and working alone 'independently' as a prostitute. It's absolutely mad that you think offices can't be trusted. Literally shake yourself up. This is completely insane and dangerous. You could end up beaten up to a pulp by one of your punters.
Tell your therapist.

[kristallen]

Hey OP I have PTSD too and just wanted to say I completely understand the inability to be able to commit to being with people every day in a constant setting where there are demands put on you. Being with people who are understanding and kind would be beneficial, but that's not what work environments are for...

Have you had EMDR for the office attack? It doesn't always work, but does have a high rate of success for things like that. If it worked for you then it would make office work physically possible (as in being in an office wouldn't be retraumatising in itself).

I'm also wondering - and this is entirely outside what you've posted, so may have been done or may not be relevant because of time frames (I don't know what they are - but if you had an assault at work that has led to you being unable to work, is this something you should/could be compensated for?

[GuessWhoColeen]

Interesting about them stamping all over your boundaries

I think this is because they want & will take control, whether you want to do something or not.

They want you to feel worthless and will ignore your request not to do something that you do not want to do.
So basically you are not giving consent to a certain thing and they are going to do it anyway.

Take the control back OP, how fucking dare they make you feel like your voice wont be heard.

Find a new place to live, so you have some money left over.

Tell your therapist what you are doing, because they will never be able to help otherwise.

Have you completed the freedom programme?

[GreenLeafTurnip]

OP I know you have children but have you considered something as simple as being a kitchen porter?

I've worked in restaurants and you really don't need to have a smile on your face or pretend to be happy when you're washing dishes.

You mention children so I'm not sure it's so easy as it's mostly evening work. But it has to be better than putting yourself in front of the bull as you say.

I'm not sure about benefits but if I remember correctly you can do up to 16 hours a week and still claim?

I'm sure other posters have been more helpful. I hope you get something sorted soon.

[secretlife81]

Interesting about them stamping all over your boundaries. That's been the biggest eye opener. When you say something you don't want to do is a hard limit... it's like red rag to a bull

[secretlife81]

Thank you x.