To think my solicitors are sexist

[Askma]

I'm really fed up of our solicitors. We're buying our first house and they're driving me mad.

I have organised everything, talked to estate agents, mortgage brokers etc. DH is in charge of actual moving when it comes to that.

The solicitors keep emailing DH about stuff and not cc'ing me. The first time was in response to an direct email from me querying some paperwork. They replied just to him. I replied asking them to in future reply to my emails to me too. The next time was a more general update, I phoned and asked them to please Cc me into all emails. They apologised and said they would.

They've just done it again.

I want to scream. Why? He has spoken to them once on the phone ever, that is it. Why do they insist on emailing him and not me?? The only reason I can think of is because he is Mr and I am not.

If we were not so close to completion I would get a new solicitor. This is not my only issue with them but it is genuinely making me so angry!

AIBU? Can I do anything about this? Complain (again) maybe?

[Redcherries]

The car I purchased in my name, that I pay for, is due a service. They keep calling my husband to arrange it.

YANBU

[livingthegoodlife]

I doubt it's personal. They probably haven't added your email to your client profile (which will be you and DH) so when they press "send email" from their case management software it automatically emails just him.

Not acceptable of course and they should update it, especially as you have asked them to.

Just thought I'd point out it probably isn't on purpose.

[Kochicoo]

Agree with pp above, I very much doubt it's on purpose (still not good cause you have already asked them to not do it) and it will be because their case management software is doing it automatically. In their rush to deal with things, they've forgotten again. Hope you complete soon.

[Askma]

While you're probably right living I would still question why it's like that in the first place, why have they added his email to their software and not mine? And why have they not corrected it either time I've asked them to. I doubt it's a complicated process.

[Askma]

I'll get DH to email them and ask them to fix it, see if that works

[Sirzy]

I think one point of contact is more than enough! If that is you then ask them to change email to yours

[WednesdaySpinner]

YANBU.

We are in the same position and our solicitor has just asked for our contracts to be rewritten before we exchange. Which will hold up the whole process. When questioned on this, they said that it was traditional to put the male first on the contract. [hmm

Needless to say, the solicitors acting for the property have refused to rewrite on those grounds.

[ForalltheSaints]

Are there female solicitors in the practice? Can you insist on dealing only with a female solicitor to make a point?

[PrivateDoor]

We find our solicitor to be very old fashioned as well. Everything is addressed to 'Mr and Mrs Husband's full name' which I just find archaic. The language and font used is really old fashioned too, in fact a lot looks like it has been done on a typewriter!

[Figural]

You shouldn't have to do it, but can you or DP set up his email to automatically forward or copy all emails from them, to your account? It's usually called setting up a rule or a filter, depending on the software.

It could solve some, hopefully temporary, frustrations.