To feel sad at the lack of understanding of gaslighting/emotional abuse? (Rebecca Humphries)
BlueNeighbourhood · 09/10/2018 12:51
I have been reading DS Forums this morning as it's a great forum for all things to do with television and media in general, and especially for pieces on Strictly Come Dancing.
There's a thread on there about the Sean & Katya incident and it seems to be divided into two camps - the ones like myself who feel that the insinuation in Rebecca's statement of emotional abuse and gaslighting from Sean is too big an issue for producers to ignore and then the ones who are blaming Rebecca, ripping her statement to shreds and saying she's contradicting herself.
An example of this is a poster who said 'Well she's said she's a strong woman but she was sat at home on her birthday waiting for Sean' WTF!
The lack of understanding of how severe this is has really annoyed me, and the fact they are minimising his behaviour and instead blaming Rebecca for giving a statement is really indicative of the blame culture we now live in.
Link to the thread is here. It is 60-odd pages long but it's just people at odds with each other about who is to blame.
MissusGeneHunt · 09/10/2018 12:57
Can't be bothered to wade through the forums, too much blame culture, but I read the BBC website news about her and thought she actually sounds positively in control of her emotions and good on her. She's probably been quite upset about it all, but she's emerged as a victor, and has a cat into the bargain!
Babybearsporij · 09/10/2018 12:58
It read to me like they'd been unhappy for some time and this has given her the "out" she needed / wanted.
Lottapianos · 09/10/2018 13:03
Women get blamed for men's behaviour all the time. Katya has had absolutely tons of shit as well, she has hardly covered herself in glory, but she has had loads more abuse than Sean has as far as I can see. Many people will tie themselves in knots trying to put the blame everywhere but on the shoulders of the man involved in a situation. And yes, it's deeply depressing
MrsMWA · 09/10/2018 13:08
I think they are all in showbiz and are all loving the attention. All four of the involved parties. The show must go on.
ohfourfoxache · 09/10/2018 14:29
I’m very grateful that Rebecca has spoken out. At the very least it will mean that gaslighting is discussed more than it has been.
MrsJayy · 09/10/2018 14:57
She said he called her Phsyco mental etc etc she dumped his arse good for her he made a fool of her, but we can't assume she was gaslighted over a long period of time or she used this as an escape.
The whole thing has peaked to cringy levels Sean(n) Walsh should really have backed away from Strictly and katya and gone home to his girl friend on her birthday being a selfish arsehole doesn't mean he has abused his ex for 5 years
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