My friend is really struggling since becoming a mother with memories of her childhood, because she says she couldn't bear the thought of doing to her child what her mother did to her and it makes her feel really angry with her mother. She told me that as a child she was extremely frightened of the dark so when she was naughty her mum would remove her lightbulb from her room and lock her in there for ages. She said she removed her favourite teddies so she'd have no comfort and leave her in there while she cried and cried in the dark. I think this is disgusting and abusive but she's not so sure and thinks maybe it was a normal punishment at the time (would have been early nineties). I just wanted some opinions about this because she's trying to work out why and where her relationship with her mother went wrong (they're now NC and she's happier but just wants to figure it out a bit for closure). I think that this might have been the sort of behaviour that started problems between them (she said as a child she felt really angry and upset a lot of the time and I think maybe punishments like this were part of the reason she felt like this). What do you think? Is this sort of punishment abusive or normal?
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