to think if you ask for melon with a bit of yoghurt for breakfast

[happystrummer]

If you ask for melon with a bit of yoghurt for breakfast AIBU to expect not to get a full cereal bowl of yoghurt with 4 pieces of melon, a banana and a dollop of blackcurrant jam on top without being told I;m ungrateful.

[HollowTalk]

OP, you have to remember on MN you have to be grateful for anything anyone does for you, even if it's crap

[NorthernSpirit]

God you sound completely ungrateful, the poor fella. He did something nice for you. Hardly a big problem. Next time why don’t you get your own breakfast?

[PeanuttyButter]

I’ve learned to lower my expectations when it comes to DH therefore I am never disappointed. It works for us at least

[StaySafe]

Is this a stealth boast?

[Dontalkoverme]

Is this a stealth boast?

How is this a stealth boast by any means? That she eats yogurt for breakfast or that she has a fabulous partner who gets it very wrong cooks for her?

[yumyumpoppycat]

It does sound ungrateful BUT there is no way I could eat that much yogurt and I would be annoyed at having to throw it away so this is a sort of BU for me. I wonder if he poured too much in and tried to compensate with Jam.

[BogstandardBelle]

I’m with you OP. Why should you be grateful for something that you didn’t want and didn’t ask for? It’s like people buying clothes and ornaments as gifts (their taste, their style, their budget - not mine).

I’m grateful for lots of things in life. Random food / clothes / advice / stuff from other people, not so much. I don’t give any of the above as gifts without checking with the receiver first, or being very very sure that it’s what they want / like / need.

I’m always polite btw.

[Dontalkoverme]

I don’t think you need to be grateful for a poor attempt at what you asked for. I wonder if some of these posters would be happy if they asked for a cup of tea (usually black) and their partner decided to get creative with milk and sugar? Should they be grateful for the attempt?

[BigBumandMumTum]

YAnbu , that sounds disgusting

[happystrummer]

Maybe he did think he could mask the overload of yoghurt. I kinda could have understood a bit of honey on the top but he obviously thought the jam was the piece de resistance :)

[thisneverendingsummer]

@happystrummer

YABU obvs! Most women can't get their man to lift a lazy ass twatting finger in the house.

Hold onto THIS one like fuck. Superglue him to you if necessary!!!

[Blackoutblinds]

Make your own breakfast in future.

[DieAntword]

Obvs a feeder. LTB.

[TheOrigFV45]

I guess it depends on how the whole thing panned out.

Did he ask you what you wanted or did you just ask?
Does he know how you like your yog/melon?
Does he know it's important to you that you are just given what you asked for, because that's what you want, and don't want surprises?
Was it done with all good intentions or was he trying to make a point, or be funny?

[MargoLovebutter]

I had a partner who liked to "treat me" with breakfast in bed but it was always so bloody awful it was never a treat and I came to dread it, as the acting required to show appreciation was more than I could manage early in the morning! The biggest crime was LUKEWARM tea!!!!!!

[yumyumpoppycat]

People do eat jam and yogurt, but I am with you honey would have been better - again only sort of unreasonable on both sides!

[Missingstreetlife]

Used to buy a lovely melon yoghurt France, can't find it here.
Sorry about the jam, idiot!

[MrsStrowman]

He's given you the portion size he would have, and maybe thought he was being mastercheffy with the jam!

[Broken11Girl]

that sounds lovely, wtf is the issue

[Fashionista101]

This made me LOL!

I can relate. Why jam. Just. No. Need.

[serbska]

Well I like a bowl of yog and a dollop of jam. So there.

[Botanicbaby]

Sounds like he made an effort for you. Okay it wasn’t how you wanted it but you do sound ungrateful.

I hope he doesn’t attempt to make you breakfast again. YABU.

[Chesterfieldsofa]

FFS, it's jam not arsenic - and if the whole fruit jam with yoghurt idea is so repulsive, who the hell buys fruit yoghurts (some even have separate jam in the corner ) that fill the aisles of the supermarket?

[yumyumpoppycat]

There needs to be a new category on eharmony - do you like jam on yougurt - yes or no?

[Poppins2016]

I'm going against the grain here: YADNBU.

Why were you given the option of stating what you wanted, when you weren't going to be listened to?!

My DH likes giving 'food upgrades'. Unfortunately, although he has the best of intentions ('I thought you'd like it') I tend to inadvertently upset him by not really showing enough appreciation. He now understands that if I say I'd like X, that means X, not X + Y, or Z.

I had to explain the following to DH in order to help him understand:

Of course, it's lovely to have someone do something for you and the principle of the action is always very much appreciated. However the shine is taken off when you ask for X and then get Y (because it implies that the other person either didn't listen, or thinks that they know what you want better than you do). I appreciate an action much more when my choices/preferences have been listened to.

DH has now taken this on board and I always show my appreciation for my food being 'just what I asked for'! He, in turn, is much happier because I give a very positive reaction.

I know some people (DH, for example) just don't care that much about how food is served up to them. However I live very 'in the moment' and only 'fancy eating what I fancy' (or what I'm expecting!) at that time. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect that my preferences are listened to, especially in a home situation. Eating out or with friends is sometimes a different matter - there have been times when I've just had to 'get over it and get on with it'!

Perhaps I sound a little spoilt, however I do expect/ensure that it works both ways. I try my best to get things just right for DH when I'm cooking for him, make his toast 'just so' and ask before I try out modifications to recipes.