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To think DS should have been sent home after fainting?

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 17:19

DS fainted this morning in assembly. They asked him if he'd eaten and he said no, so they made him have some toast.

However, AIBU to think they really should have called me and sent him home?

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 18:01

He doesn't want it. I do offer but he refuses.

Thanks for thoughts ... I really think they should have contacted me at the least. Maybe they thought I'd want to collect him.

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ElasticatedJeans · 04/12/2017 18:02

My DS went through a phase of fainting. He was going through a growth spurt and the doctor at hospital diagnosed him with orthostatic hypotension, which apparently is quite common in boys.

oldbirdy · 04/12/2017 18:03

My DS won't eat breakfast either. I either make him drink a breakfast smoothie (like the weetabix drinks) or a complan made with full cream milk. I don't feel right sending him with nothing.

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 18:04

He really doesn't want anything, he's pretty firm on that.

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TheHungryDonkey · 04/12/2017 18:10

I don’t like breakfast either. Never did when I was a child. I can’t swallow anything before about 10am.

I would want the school to phone me too. He may have been fine afterwards, but I think they should have phoned.

formerbabe · 04/12/2017 18:15

Breakfast doesn't have to be cereal, toast or traditional breakfast foods. You could do beans on toast, sandwiches, cold meats and cheeses... anything really

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 18:15

So do I.

I don't know whether to raise it with them or not.

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 18:16

I know former but he doesn't want food, simple as that really.

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SylviaTietjens · 04/12/2017 18:18

I thought part of the fun of assembly was someone fainting. We had to stand for our hour long assembly twice a week and you could guarantee someone would go. Is it something to do with standing still and growing?

But back to the op, if he said he hadn’t eaten, at something then said he felt fine I can’t see the problem. Fainting isn’t usually contagious and surely he’d have said if he felt too ill to stay.

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 18:19

Not necessarily. I mean, yes sometimes children can be the best judges of their own feelings but I think he wouldn't have felt right about saying "I need you to call my mum; I really don't feel well."

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WhooooAmI24601 · 04/12/2017 18:21

Oddly DS1 fainted a month or so ago whilst at school. They phoned me immediately and I collected him 30 minutes later, took him to see our GP and he fainted again in the surgery. Never fainted before, no history of it and he eats a hearty breakfast every day.

I think YANBU to expect a phone call at the very least. DS1 hit his head pretty hard the first time and fortunately I was able to catch him the second, but I think it definitely warrants some r&r if an otherwise healthy child suddenly faints. DS1 felt shaky and tired for a few hours after his.

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 18:25

He said he felt weird all day and he bangd his head when he went down. Just a bit pissed off to be honest. His attendance is OK - it's just I really feel they made the wrong call there.

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waitingforlifetostart · 04/12/2017 18:30

We'd have rang home and seen what the parents wanted to do.

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 18:32

I just can't understand why they didn't.

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stella23 · 04/12/2017 18:34

Yanbu, they should have a least called you

Trailedanderror · 04/12/2017 18:36

Feed your child breakfast before criticising the school's duty of care. Hmm

CaledonianQueen · 04/12/2017 18:37

YANBU my dd had a bad bang to the head, was in floods of tears and her school called and asked me to collect her right away. She had a huge egg on her forehead and other than keeping a close eye one her for the next 48 hours she was fine. She would have been fine at school but she was frightened, sore and wanted me. If she had fainted, I would have wanted her home, especially as she is at a higher risk of developing epilepsy due to her Daddy being epileptic.

I know that if my daughter had wanted to stay, they would still have informed me and given me the option of collecting her. My dd has had several bumps and falls since starting school and every time she has a bad one we get a call to let us know. They always give us as parents the opportunity to decide whether we want her home.

In your situation, I would ask them to contact you as soon as possible if he faints again. Meanwhile, I would be either buying meal replacement shakes or buying or making fruit smoothies (adding oats and yoghurt) as a breakfast replacement. Whether your ds wants to eat is irrelevant, he needs nutrients in the morning. Unless he wants to faint at school again.

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 18:41

How, Trailed, by forcing it down his throat? Hmm

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CatsCatsCats11 · 04/12/2017 18:41

I'd want to know about this. I'm a fainter (with every infection) a previous work place sent me home as if I fainted in their building they would have to ring an ambulance (despite me telling them I would be fine Hmm)

steff13 · 04/12/2017 18:42

Was he standing in the assembly? If so, he may have fainted because he locked his knees, rather than because of hunger.

I would have wanted to have been called too, OP.

IHaveBrilloHair · 04/12/2017 18:46

They should have called you to let you know, though I think they made the right call to give him toast and keep him in.
DD didn't eat breakfast for years, I never do either, it's hardly a neglect issue.

RavingRoo · 04/12/2017 18:57

If it was better after toast then you should now insist on him eating something before he leaves. Sometimes being a parent is difficult and you need to insist - clearly the not eating in the morning isn’t working for him any more

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 19:00

He won't, Raving, just refuses.

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TheHungryDonkey · 04/12/2017 19:03

Are they allowed something at break time like a cereal bar and fruit?

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sunsetseasky · 04/12/2017 19:06

Yes, he has something then. But he has been a breakfast refuser for years and not fainted before. I don't know what caused it but can't see it being related to food.

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