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Is my partner lying about money to me?

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xAnnax · 22/11/2017 16:30

A month ago I started working for home selling cosmetics for a well known brand. We set it up in my partners name but only because I am a bit deaf so didn't want to face talking to a sales leader and not being able to understand them. It was just easier for him to deal with them.

Anyway, we both deliver the catalogs and he will deliver the orders. Whereas I run our facebook page driving to drive our online sales and I will put the orders through on the computer, fill out forms and bag up the orders ready for him to take out. So, we consider it to be both of our business. Even though it was my idea initially.

The first campaign went really well, collected brochures and then when the delivery came we went around to our customers and delivered it. My partner then took the money the post office to pay for it.

The second campaign went really well, got even more orders and delivered all the items. Anyway, this time my partner took the money to the post office and was informed by the lady there that there systems were down or there was some sort of problem with the machine and it couldn't be paid. Apparently the woman in the Post office put the money in a safe and said for him to come back and they could try again. He knows her personally so he agreed to this. He rang me up and told me at the time.

I was annoyed as I said to him he should have just gone to the bank. It actually isn't our money and I didn't feel ok with it just sitting in a safe even if it was with someone he knew well. I just wanted it paid so that I didn't have to worry about the bill.

He left it about 3 days till he went back to get the money from the post office and this woman (he though i reminded him a few times)

He decided to pay at a different Post office, for whatever reason. And the money went through to his bank account - or so he thought.
I asked to see if it had gone through ok, as was a little bit suspicious about the whole post office story and surprise surprise it wasn't in his account.

He said this would be because the servers may be down at the bank, which happens on a sunday as it has happened before apparently.

After several calls to the bank who said they could see the money on their system but it hadn't gone through, my partner was told to wait a day to see if it went through then.

When it didn't (after me mythering him to check his account) he went down in person to the bank and they said they didn't know where the money was but they could see he'd put it in. They said they'd ring him back after doing some checks into where it had gone. Apparently, it had happened to some other customers too.

I just don't know what to think about this. It just seems to be one thing after another.

My partner hasn't been the best with money, he can be careless with it at times. But I can usually see where it has gone when we work it out . I've suspected he has lied before about money but only the odd £30. This has only happened a few times so I let it pass. However, This is almost £90 and isn't actually our money. I don't want this ruining what i consider my little part time job. As it may do if we don't "find" the money as obviously I can't order my customers next order till I've paid.

I'm not sure if this is the banks fault and they made an error or if he's used it for something else although not sure what. I've not noticed anything out of the ordinary.

Is he lying to me?

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Biker47 · 26/11/2017 12:05

Money is long gone.

Why would anyone offer to put £90 in a post office safe rather than just handing them it back and say come back later, it's not an exceptionally large ammount of money to warrant putting it in a safe.