Neighbour seems annoyed by my house party

[Tobythecat]

I had a little house party the other day. I've lived here over 2 years, never played music or had a party until the other night. I started playing music at 7pm on friday, (I live in an upstairs flat)and turned music off at 9.30. Friends left at 11 and I went to bed.

Bearing in mind this neighbour plays his trumpet throughout the week/weekends, as soon as i put the music on he started playing his trumpet, and has done everyday since friday.

I just saw him by the car and waved to him, he gave me a filthy look and turned his back on me (he is usually very friendly).

I know his wife works random shifts, but this was a one off, and I deliberately had it on a Friday so most people wouldn't have work in the morning. I turned the music off by 9.30 and I have never had a party or played music in all the time i've lived here.

AIBU to think neighbour is being a petty cuntflop?

[Tobythecat]

I won't be putting a note through the door, I just don't see the reason to. Luckily, I'm moving to a house soon (although it's a mid terrace), just hope those neighbours aren't dicks.

Funnily enough, I can hear him and his wife most mornings slamming the gate and whingeing on their way to work every morning (6.30am) whilst i'm in bed. He tends to whinge and moan a lot to his wife, I think he is generally a bit of a whingebag. He even whinged about the chocolates and wine I gave him once for finding my cat

As I was playing the music he started playing the trumpet at the same time, which I thought was incredibly childish.

[bastardkitty]

Does he play his trumpet once in 2 years? No I didn't think so.

[ChelleDawg2020]

You should have let him know - whether or not you think he's strange, it is only polite to warn him. Anyway, you can't play music loudly on the one hand, then complain that he plays the trumpet on the other.

[bastardkitty]

Your neighbour is a dickhead. Definitely second the tuba suggestion.

[SpookghosttiAndMeatboos]

Where we live there’s no noise that’s outwith normal living noise after 7. You can’t put your washer on in a block of flats after 9. That’s quite normal for most of Europe.

Really depends on your bit of Europe.. the 3, no 4 European countries I've lived in other than the UK are more like the UK, where it really depends on the kind of development you're living in, and they think Germany/Switzerland/Austria/all the countries that have these rules are a bit uptight...

Hell, I lived in an apartment in Vancouver where there were rules on the colour and orientation of my blinds, but they still didn't have rules on when I could run my washer!

[TerrifyingFeistyCupcake]

I’d love it our neighbours played loud music until 9.30pm on just one occasion.

Yep. OP, the house next to me is up for sale - fancy a move? :)

[DameSquashalot]

I’d love it our neighbours played loud music until 9.30pm on just one occasion.

[ILostItInTheEarlyNineties]

He hasn't actually complained though. As it stands it's just a grumpy look from him in passing.

Perhaps he couldn't smile as a result of straining his cheek muscles with all that passive aggressive trumpet blowing?

Just extend an olive branch next time you party and invite him and his horn. He could do a set.

[ButchyRestingFace]

I had a neighbour like yours, except without the trumpet. We were really quiet, but he complained about us moving chairs in the kitchen/living room after 9 pm

Were you above them?

[Anatidae]

Scrap Spain from that. It's constant noise here 😂

Aye fair enough... :) it’s the norm in the more, shall we say, northern regions? 😂

[forceslover]

You have nothing to apologise for! A bit of music on a Friday night, he sounds a bit precious to me, ignore his sulks.

[Atenco]

I had a neighbour like yours, except without the trumpet. We were really quiet, but he complained about us moving chairs in the kitchen/living room after 9 pm. My roomy and I had great fun planning how to give him something to really complain. Fortunately said neighbour calmed down before we were forced to enact our revenge.

[DJBaggySmalls]

Enthusiastically accompany him on the saucepans and kazoo.

[feelslikearockandahardplace]

Wish you were my neighbour. Ours had a party Saturday night, which we were warned about that afternoon, they turned the music up at 10:30 so we could hear every word and feel every beat of the bass. Kids were thrilled to be woken up too...

[ButchyRestingFace]

I wouldn’t appreciate music in a flat after 7pm tbh. Unless it was a one off and neighbour pre warned me.

Presumably you don't play the trumpet?

[expatinspain]

Where we live there’s no noise that’s outwith normal living noise after 7. You can’t put your washer on in a block of flats after 9. That’s quite normal for most of Europe. Scrap Spain from that. It's constant noise here 😂

[Saracen]

You could confront him show interest in his well-being if he gives you the filthy look again or blanks you. Go up to him and ask, "Are you all right??" in a tone of great concern. If he grunts or gives you the cold shoulder then add, "You just had such an odd look on your face just now. I thought you might be ill."

If he takes the opportunity to say anything about the party then you can have a civilised conversation about it.

[Alicecooperslovechild]

Suggest that he gets a practice mute for the trumpet. Blocks most of the sound but he can hear it through headphones.

[SilverSpot]

Why do people pander to difficult neighbours.

It just makes them think they are in the right and enables them to be even more difficult!

[GrumpyOldBag]

What redglitter said.

[Skyatdawn998]

Yes he's being a petty cuntflop.
Ignore the cuntflop.

[MagdalenLaundry]

Why do people pander to difficult neighbours.
I had difficult neighbours. They couldn't bear the sound of a door closing or worried a window would rattle
They wanted my windows closed all the time and us never to use the front door
I told them to get lost and my life improved immensely. Not talking is so much easier than listening to unreasonable demands

[LesLavandes]

He is being ridiculous. If he kicks up, complain about his trumpet practice. Believe me unless he is a pro, it’s not great listening. My ex played it.. Tell him to use a practice mute

[PinkHeart5914]

It was a one off party (i am assuming you don’t do it every weekend) and music was off by 9:30, everyone left at 11.

Some people like your neighbour are just miserable sods.

As for putting a note in his door to apologise 😂 i can’t even believe it’s been suggested tbh, you’ve nothing to apologise for. When you live near people you get noise sometimes

[AlpacaPicnic]

HIBU. And a moany twunt.

My neighbours - over the road neighbours but it still counts - decided that 2am on a Monday night/Tuesday morning was the perfect time to stand in the street, singing along to the radio and drinking vodka from the bottle. The sight of me appearing in my jimjams and angry hair put them off for a little bit. The sight of the police turning up shut them up a bit more.

Still, they've been evicted now so it's back to peace and quiet!