To think my colleague has put me on a diet?

[sayyouwill]

lighthearted

So in my office there is one girl who has nominated herself as the ‘lunch getter’ as she is the* only one who has the time to actually leave the building on her break. She is the most junior so has a lighter workload than the rest of us. The rest of us just eat at our desk or take 10 mins where we can. We have nowhere to store food from home either so I tend not to bring* it in.
Anyways, so every time I* tell her what I want, ‘conveniently’ the shop doesn’t have it or she gets me the ‘light’ or ‘diet’ version by ‘mistake’. Even if there are 3 of us having the same sandwich, she’ll give the other two* theirs and mine will be the ‘light’ version!

Thing is... I’m* not even big!! I’m a size 12 so not super super skinny, but I go to the gym 3 times a week and don’t eat a lot of crap. I’m genuinely staring to think that she is trying to ‘thin me down’ or something!*

So, AIBU to start fattening her up? She’s* a tiny little thing and I* think it would be sweet revenge...

[reallyanotherone]

Depends on your height is size 12 is fat 5foot5. If I gained enough to be in a size 12 I would be considered medically obese.

Utter bollocks. I am 5’4, size 12, and not even overweight.

[StealthPolarBear]

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Depends on your height is size 12 is fat 5foot5. If I gained enough to be in a size 12 I would be considered medically obese."

I think the first is should be an if. And 5foot5 is another posters name. Took me ages to decipher because of that coincidence

[grannysmiff]

Ideas of what is overweight are totally skewed in this country

[ShellyBoobs]

I would tell her to * and when she she can .

The cheeky ***

[Topseyt]

Stop letting her get your lunch. Why is she allowed to take over here? It is none of her business.

Make a point of going out to get your own lunch. If she asks why then say you need the fresh air, a break from your desk and want to make your own choice, especially as what you have asked her for seems not to have been available much recently.

Don't let her do this.

[schoolgaterebel]

* Next time just say "can you make sure you grab me the fatty fatty boo boo version please"*

[StealthNinjaMum]

At best she's trying to be helpful, at worst just bloody rude. I would politely ask her why she keeps giving you the low fat versions and then judge if she's being deliberately rude.

[jay55]

Tell her no substitutions. If they don’t have it don’t get anything.

[GabsAlot]

tak a cool pack in a lunch bag will save u loads of money

she does sound odd

[Cinnamoncookie]

Take your own lunch in an insulated lunch bag with a freezer block thingy, problem solved.

Obviously if you're in the middle of nowhere and can't get off site and back, and have time to eat in your half hour break, then it's a problem, but if you only get 10 minutes break in a normal working day, your employer is breaking the law.

[mrwalkensir]

at 7.5 stone and 5 foot 4 way back when...I was size 8 (ooh skinny) hips and size 14 top - fat?

[Dozer]

Just bring in lunch - it’ll be fine unrefrigerated - or get your own!

[Moanyoldcow]

@BoomBoomBoomBoooom

Depends on your height is size 12 is fat 5foot5. If I gained enough to be in a size 12 I would be considered medically obese.

Are you mad? I'm 5' 5" - if I'm a size 12 I weigh about 10st 7lb which is higher side of 'normal' and nowhere near obese.

That aside, OPs weight is nothing to do with her colleague and she should not be policing her diet.

[sayyouwill]

I used to take my own in but honestly I can’t be arsed with making something each morning/evening lol. I’ll fully admit that after a long day, coming home to my baby, getting him down, getting to the gym, having tea, I go straight to bed lol.
My employer does allow a 30 minute break however our workload is massive and we are understaffed. She isn’t qualified to do what we do and her admin work is massively lighter so she has more time than the rest of us.
I said this was lighthearted because I know she is doing me (and us all) a favour so I know I can’t complain too much, but I just find it really odd!!
I am not self conscious about my weight, I know I’m a healthy weight and size. I sometimes bring in treats for the office if I’ve been to the shop or been baking, I’ll have a sugar in my tea so she definitely doesn’t think I’m being health conscious. It’s just so bizarre!

[TheEmpressWears]

I think you're right.
I'd embarrass her a little {whisper} have you got that? repeat that back to me! Ok. So that's what you're going to get me?!
If she asks you why you're double checking say kindly like you're dealing with a ten year old ''it's just that you never get it right!''

[HeebieJeebies456]

So in my office there is one girl who has nominated herself as the ‘lunch getter’
Really? Or is it the case that actually her colleagues have decided to nominate her because they feel superior to her?

she has more time than the rest of us
No - you all have the same 30 minutes allocated to your lunch breaks - you choose not to leave your desks for lunch.

Maybe the shop ran out of the specific thing you wanted so she has to get the next best thing?
Maybe the others don't have the same supercilious attitude and expectations that you have hence you always end up with the 'next best thing'?

I get the impression that you all are manipulating a younger and more junior colleague into being your dogsbody.
Getting lunch for you all eats into her lunchtime and also prevents her from doing anything else during that time.

I suggest you get off your pedestal and take responsibility for your own lunch - either take a packed lunch or buy your lunch on the way in to work....or just exercise your right to take 30 minutes out of the day and leave your desk for lunch.
Lunchtime is usually unpaid - so you're a mug for working an extra 2 and a half hours per week for free!

[pigeondujour]

It's bang out of order she's being asked to use her break to get other people lunch. I'd be mortified to have a colleague get me lunch every day. No wonder she isn't that arsed about the finer details of your order.

[StealthPolarBear]

Heebie there are many jobs in which you are not a mug for working over the contracted hours.

[Karmin]

There is probably a reason she gets it wrong, such as she blames you for the set up of being lunch getter, she doesn't like you, you were once rude to her/about her animal whatever.

[sayyouwill]

Okay, once again, she nominated herself to get lunches. She does not mind. She has been asked and asked again whether she does but she doesn’t. This isn’t a power play, but more a time thing. She was never asked to begin with, she offered. Repeatedly

[sayyouwill]

Maybe the others don't have the same supercilious attitude and expectations that you have hence you always end up with the 'next best thing'?

I would love to know how you’ve reached this conclusion

[Butterymuffin]

While I don't agree with all of Heebie's interpretation here, she is right that you're all choosing not to take a lunch break. That's how excessive workloads come to be normalised, and it's not helpful for anyone long term (no, not even in the NHS where people often try to justify it). Break this pattern and say you're going to get into the better habit of taking some time out and getting your own lunch, and does anyone want to join you? It's bad for you not to get a proper break. Your employer will have to figure out how to deal with the workload, but it shouldn't be at the ensemble of workers' wellbeing.

[ArchchancellorsHat]

Does she just get everyone the low cal version, or is it just you? I hink some people just reach for the crappy low cal version by habit. Say you want the fat one TYVM.

[Willow2017]

heebie
Wow projecting much?
Op explained the set up.
The co worker volunteered.
She gets everyone else's right except ops is it just a bit of a coincidence?
Calm down you will do yourself a damage being so nasty for no reason.

[HeebieJeebies456]

i'm not wound up willow.....just giving OP my perspective.

Heebie there are many jobs in which you are not a mug for working over the contracted hours.
Anybody who chooses to work extra/over contracted hours for no extra pay or recognition is a mug.

*"Maybe the others don't have the same supercilious attitude and expectations that you have hence you always end up with the 'next best thing'?"....I would love to know how you’ve reached this conclusion"

From the words OP used to try and justify herself -
she is the only one who has the time to actually leave the building on her break (which is blatantly and factually untrue)
She isn’t qualified to do what we do and her admin work is massively lighter so she has more time than the rest of us (i bet she has the same contracted lunch time break!)
I can’t be arsed with making something each morning/evening lol.

I've worked since age 16 on different jobs/fields of expertise/regions.
I'm 37 now.........and i have never come across someone who happily and through their own free will chooses to use their unpaid 30 minute lunch break to skivvy for others. Never - and i've been 'junior' plenty of times myself as well

What i did come to realise over the years was how older colleagues were happy to manipulate and effectively coerce the junior ones into being their dogsbody......making out they were soooo important/busy/hard done by that the junior one would feel sorry/bad for them and go out of their way to 'help' them out.

Nowadays when i see it happening i happily enlighten the 'skivvy' and give them a crash course in boundaries