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AIBU?

to come here for a little happy dance?

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QueenNefertitty · 19/09/2017 20:58

DS and I moved back to my hometown after ExDP ended our relationship 4 months ago, and I couldn't afford to lone parent in London, and pay for childcare that would cover the crazy hours of my (creative freelance) industry job.

We've been sleeping in DM's spare room, and I've been having weekly therapy for OCD and postnatal anxiety and when I first got back, I thought I was literally never ever going to be able to get my shit together.

Today I got a more junior job in an arts and heritage role (not my old career, but one I've wanted to sidestep into for years), 4 days per week, on a salary that maximises my Working Tax Credit claim, and it's close to my preferred nursery for DS (actually over the road).

I also put in an application to rent a grade 2 listed beautiful cottage, close to both job and nursery, not too far from DM (far enough to breathe!) that is part of a private estate, and the lovely lovely estate agent is doing all she can to get the estate trustees to long lease the property to me. There are no guarantees but its looking hopeful.

DM has agreed to have DS one day a week, which means he's only in childcare three days - which is what I think will be best for both of us (no disrespect to any parents using more childcare - if I had to I would)

My salary is half what it was in London. I don't own a property any more,
I have no savings, and I'm 30 and starting all over again with a baby on my hip. And it feels really bloody RIGHT.

So I'm doing a happy dance (inside. Can't actually as in bed with DS) and I'm doing right here in the AIBU bearpit.

Unstealthy joyful boast over

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Welshmaenad · 27/09/2017 23:12

This post makes wonderful reading!! I'm really happy for you.

I'm 18 months post moving out with the kids to our own place, and ExH's twattish behaviour aside, we are very happy. I feel like me again, not the diluted version of me he tried to make me into. It's incredibly liberating!

RedPanda25 · 27/09/2017 23:08

So happy for you! This has made my evening congratulations on landing the cottage and I hope it's amazing to live in with your ds.

myrtleWilson · 27/09/2017 23:04

didn't see this thread the first time around but great news about the cottage and to new life! Enjoy

MollysMummy2010 · 27/09/2017 23:03

Just did high kick for you OP and may have put my hip out......have to try and remember I am 44 not 4.....crab incident almost finished me off......

bluejelly · 27/09/2017 23:02

Yay! My life got markedly better around 30 too (was also a single parent)

RiversrunWoodville · 27/09/2017 23:00

Fantastic news about the cottage hope Colin moves next door soon.

OhHolyFuck · 27/09/2017 22:58

Well done you! We're the same age (happy soon birthday!) and I found myself 'starting again' with my DSs too probably a billion posts about it on here but 2 years on and I am genuinely happy
I wish nothing but good to come to you and your boy, unstealth post away!

QueenNefertitty · 27/09/2017 22:53

@averylongtimeago

Hopefully around the start of November.... just in time for my 30th birthday. Perfect excuse to get my gang up from London for a double celebration I think

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averylongtimeago · 27/09/2017 22:51

Fantastic news!
When can you made 've in, you must be so pleased.

QueenNefertitty · 27/09/2017 22:50

Thanks @holger

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HolgerDanske · 27/09/2017 22:48

Oh that's wonderful!

QueenNefertitty · 27/09/2017 22:45

I got the dream cottage!
Estate agent rang today and estate trustees happy to lease to me for as long as I like.

DS horribly unwell with tonsillitis and gastroenteritis this week, so this has totally lifted flagging spirits!

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QueenNefertitty · 20/09/2017 08:08

Thus begin* bloody autotext

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QueenNefertitty · 20/09/2017 08:08

Thank you, everyone.

Off to settle DS into nursery this morning. Typically it's the only day in his life he's slept past 5.30, so we're very late...

And this begin 18 years of chaotic mornings I guess!

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KweenOfFarts · 19/09/2017 22:52

Does a little happy dance with you.

Well done and hope all goes well with cottage.

IceCreamIScream · 19/09/2017 21:56

Everything crossed for the Cottage, but huge congratulations for how far you've come already!

rainbowduck · 19/09/2017 21:54

Yippee.

TipTopTipTopClop · 19/09/2017 21:52

What a great post. Wishing you all the best.

kitscout · 19/09/2017 21:40

Amazing! so nice to see such positivity, I hope everything keeps getting better for you

Lionroar · 19/09/2017 21:32

Congratulations, you should be proud of yourself. Fingers crossed for the cottage. Boast away

MrsWooster · 19/09/2017 21:26

I am also waiting for the book version! Good luck

QueenNefertitty · 19/09/2017 21:25

@out2pasture

unashamedly AND unstealthily-stealth posting

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Out2pasture · 19/09/2017 21:22

stealth post!!! and you deserve it :) congratulations Queen.

QueenofLouisiana · 19/09/2017 21:20

Ahhhhh! A lovely post. Boast away!

CandyMelts · 19/09/2017 21:20

Oh this is lovely, so pleased for you

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