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To be worried my DH is cheating?

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overanxious123 · 21/07/2017 22:09

What would you think about this?

Never really had any worries before about this, DH is lovely and we're expecting our first child together in Jan.

On Wednesday I found an old phone in the living room. It was fully charged and I'd never seen it before. Just had a look at it and there were old messages from me when we first got together in December 2015 (we were together before, everything has moved quite fast I know) and some messages from an old gf he was with for 2 years until October 2015.

They haven't text since then.

The phone has now completely disappeared which is odd because he would normally just leave it lying about and wouldn't necessarily charge it. I've looked everywhere for it to see if he has texted her.

I don't really know what to think. I guess I'm just wondering if he has read the old messages and reminisced and may be back in contact with her.

Like I say he's never given me a reason not to trust him I just have this feeling in my gut. Now I'm over analyzing everything he says and does to find clues that he is cheating!

Help me, tell me AIBU?

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Eebahgum · 21/07/2017 22:20

I don't see anything concerning in your post. He charged an old phone - and the last message she on there are from 2015 which implies it hasn't been used since then. Who knows why he decided to charge it now but I sincerely doubt it was to reminisce about messages from an old girlfriend 2 years ago. Why don't you just ask him about it. There's probably s completely reasonable and innocent explanation.


Guepe · 21/07/2017 22:28

All sorts of innocent explanations. Maybe he planned to sell it, or give it to someone who's currently without a phone, retrieve an old photo, etc.

I think you're making a bit of a leap. You can always ask him about it.


Tapandgo · 21/07/2017 22:53

"DH, where has the spare phone gone"


kmc1111 · 21/07/2017 23:07

Quite a leap there. Sounds like he just found one of his old phones, charged it to see if it worked/was any use, and has now either got rid or put back wherever it was.

If he wanted to get in contact with his ex he wouldnt need an old phone to do it.

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