NC'd just in case.
We want to have children, but now is not the right time, maybe next year. We've pretty much decided we will go down the egg donation route, even though we will be eligible for IVF on the NHS. I am totally fine with the decision to wait (this is about wanting to have children first).
However, I really want to donate my eggs this year - I feel like it's wasteful not too; a few months ago I wasn't really sure if we'd be able to have children or not and those feelings were awful. I don't think I've felt anything like not knowing if we could, or thinking it had been taken away from us - I took it really badly.
The other thing is, I've got a pretty long history of sexual abuse, and I am very weary of medical procedures; I have complex PTSD and I am fine with medical staff once I know them, but I find situations around receiving treatment, being in hospital, having tests and being touched really triggering. So starting a pregnancy with going through IVF for the first time isn't really something I am looking forwards too, even though I know it's what I have to do if I want children. I've been thinking that to do an egg donation cycle first, without having any embryos transferred back to me (ie. donate all my eggs) would actually possibly make this IVF process easier when we come to do it with the intention of getting pregnant.
AIBU to even be thinking about this? I can't find anywhere if it will decrease my chances of having children in the future or whether I can only donate eggs once which is information I really need to view first, but if those both come back as answered OK, do you think I am being unreasonable to go and ahead and donate an entire cycle of eggs?
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LoKeKi · 06/07/2017 13:08
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