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FeistyUnicornsCanKill · 01/07/2017 11:07

DP is pretty useless at anything to do with 'home admin'. He won't ring anywhere to sort stuff out. He doesn't pay any bills, use online banking, sort tax credits/housing benefit etc out. Once £1k went 'missing' from his bank and he wouldn't ring them up to sort it, I had to do it but they got confirmation from him 1st.

Anyhow I opened a letter which I knew where from and that I'd have to sort it and he's moaned at me saying I shouldn't open his letters blah blah. So I said ok, you open them and sort them then. On Wednesday/Thursday a letter came addressed to him. It's from (I think) housing benefit and it's still sitting unopened beside the door. (He knows it's there as he picked it up and put it on the side) I know he will either just ignore it or open it then tell me to sort it. So WIBU to open his letters? (Btw I'd only open things I knew what they were by the return address, if it was hand written or from somewhere I wasn't sure I'd leave them)

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Justhadmyhaircut · 01/07/2017 11:11

Tell him when he takes responsibility for his life like an adult you will respect his privacy regarding his post. . Repercussions for you both if he isn't dealing with things!!


SpongySand · 01/07/2017 11:11

I open all DH post and sort it, we've never discussed it but hes useless with this sort of thing so i just do it and hes never objected. Sounds either like he has something to hide or is just a bit childish to object to you doing it then leaves letters sitting there for days. If you live together then any ignoring of his important letters could mean complications so household finances which effects you, so don't let him just leave stuff. This is how people get CCJs and baliffs round etc with no idea why, because they dont open letters/check their bank accounts etc etc


FeistyUnicornsCanKill · 01/07/2017 11:12

I don't think he had anything to hide so it's definitely the 'childish' option.

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harderandharder2breathe · 01/07/2017 11:25

He's being a child. He needs to grow up and deal with his own life admin stuff.


WatchingFromTheWings · 01/07/2017 11:35

YANBU. I had to start opening my ExH mail (when we were still married). He was lying about bills and debts and it was the only way I could find out what was going on. I also set up and ran the online banking for us both to keep a close eye on his spending.

Private mail though, such as birthday cards, I never touched.

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