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Happilyneverafterrr · 14/06/2017 17:42

Been invited to evening wedding reception of an acquaintance. Said yes but now on reflection, me and dh won't know anybody there, won't be able to drink as it's nearly an hour away and not forking out for a taxi, will have to spend a fortune on an outfit as I'm so fat nothing fits me... help?

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ThroughThickAndThin01 · 14/06/2017 17:48

You'll know other acquaintances won't you?

It sounds mean spirited to me. You said you wanted to go, you can still go, you cba to go. I think you should go.


Floralnomad · 14/06/2017 17:50

Just text the day before and say you have a family emergency and can't go , no need to elaborate .


NavyandWhite · 14/06/2017 17:50

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Scribblegirl · 14/06/2017 17:52

It sounds like you just don't fancy it now. Do bear in mind that most evening receptions factor in food, minimum bar spend etc so the bride/groom does deserve to be told.

Next time I'd maybe think before you accept though, I can't imagine any of these things were things you didn't know when you accepted the invite.


Happilyneverafterrr · 14/06/2017 17:53

We don't know any other people, my dh doesn't even know the bride and groom. Of course I'm not going to leave it til the day before.

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lorrimay · 14/06/2017 17:55

Just don't go wedding receptions are not set in stone with people.

They are hardly going to miss you if you don't show up they will be to busy enjoying their wedding day


ilovesooty · 14/06/2017 17:58

Just do the decent thing and let them know now.
As your husband doesn't know the bride and groom it's your responsibility. It seems a bit churlish - you knew these things when you accepted the invitation.


ArchieStar · 14/06/2017 18:00

"Hi bride/groom,

Really sorry but I've got my dates mixed up! I've said that DH and I would be happy to attend your reception but I've just realise we've already arranged for Dfamily members birthday meal/our anniversary meal/to look after Dnieces and nephews while parents enjoy a night away/dog sitting for my cousin/etc. I need to get more organised don't I! Thanks for the invite though and we hope you'll have a fantastic day celebrating your wedding.

OP and DH"


NemosKnickers · 14/06/2017 18:01

No drama necessary, just tell them that unfortunately you won't be able to attend now but you wish them all the best etc.

Job done.


Happilyneverafterrr · 14/06/2017 19:41

Thanks all.. I do feel bad!

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