To want to punch this school mum in the face?!

[bambisims]

So.. background dd had a speech problem diagnosed at 2. She's now six and you pretty much wouldn't know she had a problem. Almost there, but it was a long slog she went to a specialist school for a while etc.

Ds also now unfortunately has been put forward for speech therapy. He's 2, 3 in august. A mum at dd school today day asked when ds would be going to school. I answered next year all being well.

She asked what I mean I said 'well depending on how his speech comes on as technically we could delay to the following year until he is CSA. She then laughed (a full belly laugh) and said 'well clearly it's not coming well at the moment'

I was just like 😳 just because it's not a physically disability why would someone think I would just laugh along it's bloody awful seeing your children not being able to express themselves, get frustrated etc.

What a twat.... I'm cross I didn't tell her off I just didn't really say anything!!

[DoJo]

What a cunt! My son has a friend with a speech delay which he occasionally mimics (not on a mocking way, just because he really likes him and wants to emulate him!) and my husband and I have made a concerted effort not to correct him or comment when he did it because we don't want him to think there's anything wrong with how his friend talks! How an adult can go out of their way, because she was clearly asking to comment on his speech either way, to be mean about a small child is beyond me.

[OneOfTheGrundys]

SLCN are such hidden and misunderstood disabilities. I was listening to R1 in the car yesterday and they played a clip of some Aussie radio show where the Dj was speaking to someone who clearly had some kind of SLCN. They took the piss out of it for ages, along the lines of 'gosh how stupid is she'. DS has ASD-their joke had me fuming... the thought of someone laughing their arse off at his communication difficulties makes me see pure red.

Twat her one OP for that comment. And again for being such an insensitive biyatch.

[PutUpWithRain]

Another one queueing up to say 'Wow OP, that's such an aggressive opener, of COURSE YAB... she fucking said WHAT???? let me at the bitch.'

It won't help at all, but I once completely put my foot in it when DD was new at infant school. A mum I didn't know at all got chatting to me t hometime and I said I was a bit worried that DD would struggle to be understood as her speech wasn't very clear, and even I couldn't understand her at times, haha! Meant in a very lighthearted way. Her reply 'My son has nonverbal autism.'

I'd had no idea & wanted the playground to open up and swallow me. I fully deserved her reply, and I still cringe to my spine when I think of how I must have come across. Oof.

But no, in your case, that bitch deserves a lamping.

[justinelibertine]

Oh OP. Unmumsnetty hugs to you and your DCs. DD is 2.5 and behind. Referred for SALT. Talking nonstop every day. Paid for private assessment, and it's bloody hard work. Surestart tell me she should be on 200 words and she has less than 50. Then they tell me to stop the (occassional) dummy. Pre school tell me she is at 16 month old level. Hurtful and they are helping.
I have my H in my ear every night about too much TV and I don't talk. I want to lamp him n all.
You don't need that bitch adding more. And you are a brill mum.

[TheMightyMing]

Hellobonjour what you said!!!!! My son had auditory memory issues and jumbled speech , which improved with intervention. I feel your pain. What a bitch.

[TheMightyMing]

This is not a boast but hopefully will stop those following behind with little ones from worrying as much. DS of the poor speech and auditory memory issues got grear SATs and leaves 6th form of grammar school next week. I had some very uncharitable comments from other parents when he was struggling so it was a big f u to them when he did well.

[Pigface1]

what?? How is that a joke? I mean if someone were trying to get up a ramp in a wheelchair, would you point and laugh?

I don't have kids yet but would really like to. It does seem to me though that having children turns some women into the nastiest most vicious witches imaginable. Or maybe it just brings it out.

[TheMysteriousJackelope]

I can't even begin to imagine what is wrong with that woman, apart from being so lacking in empathy she must be close to a sociopath, and that isn't fixable.

[ButwhenShewasBad]

She's a bitch, my ds had trouble with speech too and I had people going on about him to me, and laughing an saying to him "well I don't know what that was" when he was jabbering on. Really annoyed me.

[ticketytock1]

Omg yanbu
Hit her a dig in the forehead... now

[Rachel0Greep]

OP, another here who will gladly hold your coat, and give her a few thumps as well. FFS.
As has been said upthread, she will always be a bitch (insert other appropriate descriptions here) but your children will be flying.
I'm angry just thinking about it.

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

I feel like punching her for you.
Her kids are alright, Jack.
Where are these rude cunts coming from
Mocking a 3 year old baby. She's fucked warped. She needs looking at.

[ScrambledSmegs]

Why would someone say that? What possible reason could anyone have for being so bloody vile about a child to his mother? I'm so sorry OP, my only hope is that someone else heard her and she will be deservedly shunned.

Not at all the same but DD1 had a stammer when she was younger, and she used to get very upset when she got 'stuck' on words. The pain of seeing your child becoming distressed and then despondant about being unable to express themselves is surprisingly sharp. I'll stamp on her foot for you

[Awwlookatmybabyspider]

Accidentally on purpose stick your foot out and wizz her up.

[PoppyFleur]

OP view it less as an act of violence and more as a charitable act of kindness. Not only will you be assisting this woman to remove her head from her arse but you will also be serving the local community by preventing her from saying other equally unfounded and ill informed comments.

[aprilanne]

mu hubby has a speach impediment bad stutter and i feel like punching people when they laugh and he is 50 .just ignore the stupid cow .

[Shootfirstaskquestionslater]

I was all set to say that violence is not the answer but fuck me she's a cheeky twat I hope for her sake that her kids are fucking perfect. I will gladly sweet chin music the cheeky cunt to the floor. Your DS will be talking no problem soon don't worry.

[WellThatSucks]

What is it with all these grown women picking on small children? Another here who doesn't normally advocate violence but in these cases I'd be ready to punch a bitch myself.

[Nonibaloni]

I abhore violence in all its form. Apart from people who make your kids feel like shit for something that isn't their fault. A little kid with a problem, at best it doesn't warrant comment (hope her kid if fucking perfect) at worst sympathy.

My ds has a visual impairment. He panicked (crying and shouting) once in the playground because he got knocked over and couldn't find his bag or get back up, busy pick up time. Now i hold his hand from coming out the door. A mother asked if that was improving his behaviour "issues". She used the bloody finger quotes. Could have hit her with her child (who is a total shit head but I wouldn't say it out loud) .

No advice just another rant. Chin up and fists up too.

[Theycalledmethewildrose]

My child sounds similar to yours OP. I'd be upset if people said that, I even get a bit upset inside when DC is speaking and people smile blankly and reply REALLY loudly as if the root of DC's difficulty is down to hearing. I would avoid that woman again and if you end up standing near her, I'd move away.

[HicDraconis]

OP you would be v unreasonable.

Face punches are tricky to get right without hurting your fist as well - you're better off with a step forward and fast fist to the tummy (with luck you'd wind her and it might shut her up). Follow that one up with a snap punch up under her jaw. Knee kick as suggested previously may be overkill, but a good uppercut will have her speaking very slurred through a swollen tongue - seems fitting!

Or allow me to practice on her for you, I'm looking for a new bag to train with.

She sounds completely self centred, totally lacking in empathy and is probably oblivious to how hurtful and unpleasant her comment was.

[TheMaddHugger]

You have my ((((((Mega Madd Hugs))))))))))) and Sympathy. Both my DD and DS went through intensive speech and language therapy.

Both came good after lots of work but it was pure Hell at the time

[Chottie]

Ignore, ignore, ignore. What an ignorant woman. She obviously has no compassion or understanding. Her comment was cruel and cutting.

My DS had delayed speech and I well remember those stupid remarks asking has the 'cat got his tongue?'........

[NoncommittalToSparkleMotion]

Yanbu. I'd punch her retroactively next time you see her.

Evil bitch.

[shuangnick]

the kind of mum u mentioned above is totally BU. my son is 2yrs old and still not be able to talk, while other children around us can recite acient poem, counting numbers and express themself quite fluently. some of their parents are fond of boasting their kid's talent before us, because in that way their vanity will be satisfied. and I never cared about them. talkative doesn't mean anything, what's more important for a child is independence, desire of exploration, and the attentiveness to work. Don't u know Albert Einstein wasn't able to talk until he is five ? If i were u, I'd answer back with this example.
I believe both of ur kids are extraordinary talented.