To be annoyed at our neighbour

[sodorisland]

Dh was away playing football the morning. He came home. Less than 5 minutes later we had our neighbour screaming and shouting through our front door to close the fucking gate.

She means the back gate which we dont share its our own garden. It was also closed.

My husband said it was so she was screaming i was upstairs the door was closed so very loudy it wasnt.
She then stormed through her house out the back i can only imagine to try and prove us wrong but stopped.
She procceded to call my dh lazy and say it was open banging all night.

She wouldnt listen when dh was trying to explain it wasnt our gate as its locked at night.

Never had a bad thing to say about her from us but the other neighbours had eggs thrown at them from her and her dd (was meant to be a joke) the 60 year old neighbour certainly never took it as one.

Aibu to be annoyed and pissed off at her when we have a 6 and 2 year old in the house.

[hmcAsWas]

Okay wellthatsucks. No matter - it was good of you to apologise to the OP

[Trifleorbust]

Fair enough.

[LolaTheDarkdestroyer]

This is all a bit strange TBH.

[kali110]

WellThatSucks should have put it nicer agreed, but unfair to
Say it was clear as i also was very confused by the post, and didn't understand it until someone put a breakdown.

If the person is a mnetter and has been sending you messages, make sure you keep them or atleast screenshot them.
Try not to engage with her, or atleast stay calm if she tries to harass you.
Keep a log, record of any harassment, be it shouting/screaming, phonecalls or messages.

[WellThatSucks]

hmc and Trifle I was very much out of order being unnecessarily snarky in my response - agreed and acknowledged previously - but just to clear this up a bit, it wasn't about spelling, grammar, punctuation or anyone's dyslexia.
In this case it was about the confusing nature (to me - my comprehension skills failure) of the post itself. I must have been somewhat dim since clearly everyone else got the gist straight away but I couldn't work out who did and said what to whom at my first reading.
It wasn't to do with irrelevancy either in that I was actually looking for clarification when I posted. Not pleasantly no, that I concede and for that, again, I apologise to the OP.

[Trifleorbust]

And it isn't just about whether the OP has dyslexia - it is also about irrelevance and being unpleasant. No-one signs up to MN on the condition that they have perfect spelling, punctuation or grammar. That isn't what it is for. Focusing on that instead of what someone says makes you look like a dick.

[hmcAsWas]

WellthatSucks as a mother of a very bright, able and lovely girl with dyslexia, I find it massively triggering when somebody patronises another poster for their spelling and grammar - because my dd will have to fend off this kind of nonsense for most of her life. So yes, for me it is a massive huge twat worthy offence

[dancestomyowntune]

Sodor's ndn I hope having read the thread you have been around to apologise to Sodor for such unreasonable behaviour.

[Wineandchoccy]

Yanbu sodor your neighbour sounds a bit bonkers. I get that loud noises are irritating but if it wasn't your gate she shouldn't accuse you.

wellthatsucks Well done for apologising for your comment

[BonjourMinou]

Neighbour sounds bonkers.

If a gate door was annoying me from banging the most I would do is knock on neighbours door and ask nicely for it to be closed.

And to find out I was accusing the wrong neighbour I would be mortified and apologising profusely!

YANBU OP.
I hope your neighbour calms down and sees sense soon.

[WellThatSucks]

My apologies, OP, I hadn't had much coffee when I first read your post and found it more than a bit confusing and didn't have the patience to unravel it.

On rereading no, not my finest MN moment, but hmc was it really 'massive huge twat' worthy? A 'bit dickish' or 'arsey' maybe but not 'massive huge twat'.

wornoutboots No, not the neighbour, because presumably the OP has reported the neighbour to MNHQ for the abusive messages and if it were me I wouldn't be here would I.

[ToastDemon]

WellThatSucks you're a twat, and possibly the neighbour in question.

[wornoutboots]

how about working out which gate was actually banging, neighbour?
have a wee bit of sense! if it wasn't Sodor's, look around to see who does have a gate open, then ask NICELY for the gate's people to shut it.

oh and WellThatSucks, weren't you ever taught to say nothing if you can't say something nice?
(I'm wondering if you're the neighbour)

Sodor don't hesitate to call police if she does anything at all. Don't put up with harassment or further threatening behaviour

[PickAChew]

To Sodor's ndn: YABVU. Yes, banging gates are bloody annoying but you catch more flies with honey. Maybe catch your breath, have a cup of tea and apologize to Sodor, eh?

Sodor would be well within her rights to call the police if you keep harassing her about this, particularly in such an aggressive manner.

[babyturtles]

Haha she's a MNer?

You're deranged woman, stop shouting at your neighbours about a gate and sort yourself out, throwing eggs is disgraceful behaviour.

[Siwdmae]

You can call the police and tell them she is harassing you, which she is. Is she stupid that she can't tell which gate is banging? Threw eggs at your neighbour? What a cow.

[Pouncival]

gates banging in the wind are annoying but if it's not yours then she shouldn't be berating you - disgusting behaviour

[DailyMailReadersAreThick]

Oh, she's an MNer? Then she can see that we all think she's a deranged cunt and should wind her neck in.

[Pollyanna9]

Well I hope she's thoroughly ashamed of her mental, aggressive and unfair behaviour. I presume having been called out on this matter said neighbour will be rushing round to apologise for her frankly appalling behaviour as a matter of priority?

[RossGellersteeth]

Oh and OP, YANBU, your neighbour sounds batshit crazy. I think I'd invite her round again to look at the gate to prove it wasn't your gate banging all night.

[RossGellersteeth]

WellThatSucks

I understood what OP meant perfectly well. If YOU didn't understand it why didn't you just piss off and leave the thread instead of berating the OP?

[sodorisland]

Thanks.

Turns out she is a mn member and i had to block her from messaging me as shes seen this.

We are away for tonight so hope sil staying at ours doesnt get anything said to her whilst she watches our kids.

[Pollydonia]

Do you rent or own op?

[ScarlettFreestone]

Wellthat it's not that difficult to pick through. Why post if you can't be helpful?

To summarise:

Sodor's DH came home today and the Nextdoor neighbour started yelling at him about their back gate. Her complaint was that it was banging all night long.

She was so loud *Sodor+ could hear her from upstairs through a closed door.

Mr Sodor tried to explain that their gate is always locked but neighbour wouldn't listen.

They've never previously had issues with this particular neighbour but she has form for anti-social behaviour including throwing eggs at an elderly neighbour as a "joke".


Sodor I'd give her a while to calm down and then go round and calmly explain (again) that it wasn't your gate.

Don't yell or get angry. She's completely out of line but it sounds like she was kept up all night by someone's gate.

[Mumofazoo]

hmcAsWas