AIBU to expect all the hair to be removed having a Hollywood bikini wax?

[tinkerbellone]

Had four of these waxes now and they always leave bits. Is it really possible to remove all the hair? Or is my waxing lady not very good? Or are my pubes super strength?

[Voice0fReason]

And I get your sarcasm, but it's the hairlessness that's pre-pubescent, not the entire body - no one has once said "you officially look like an eight year old if you shave". But it is the kind of hairlessness a child has.
So it doesn't make you look like a child, so there is no implication that it means the man must be sexually attracted to children then does it!
It is a pointless argument.

Man I can't help thinking if bald fannies were all they cracked up to be y'all would be a good deal less defensive
The OP made a post to ask a question, she wasn't asking for opinions - other posters jumped on to criticise the removal of pubic hair.
People are expressing a personal preference. I don't care either way what other women choose to do, but I have seen a lot of criticism of women who do go bald, that they are only doing it to conform to male pressure, they're harming other women and they don't know their own minds.

[Klaphat]

One interesting perspective to put forward - I have only met one man at university (so 18-22 year olds) who even considered that I might not want to remove all my pubic hair. Every other man has expected, demanded, or told me to be bald.

My sister, around that age bracket now, but around 16-18 at the time, was complaining about something re. the faff of waxing her pubes. I said, in an attempt at humour that might make her realise it wasn't entirely necessary, that I hadn't even shaved my legs in six months. She thought I was boasting that I had very little hair growth on my legs. The idea that I could mean I just let my legs be hairy was so beyond her as a possibility, given that I had a partner, that she completely misjudged what I was saying and why.

[Kikikaakaa]

I don't get the feeling cleaner during periods thing. I've tried it and just found I was a LOT more likely to leak, but I do have heavy periods. Does it only make a difference if you have lighter period

If I have to wipe myself over and over and over it is easier and quicker to clean up without loads of hair underneath. If I let it grow I feel like I have to clean it frequently like you would hair on your head, with water and soap. Which isn't ideal at work. I get quite sore chafing from the wiping/towels/tampax sometimes and then put a barrier cream on my skin too. Less hair feels like overall less irritation, sticking, pulling etc etc. I'm really hairy. I'm not talking about a few mm of hair, mine grows like mad. Sometimes I will just trim it down really low for this as well and not have it all off. its just more convenient. I am sorry if saying any of these things people don't like but perhaps I just don't like the feeling/sensation of it, it is not telling people they are dirty. When I have sex it actually feels really nice the slippery smoothness, but this is not me saying that people who don't shave have crap sex.

I don't like the feeling of cotton wool either but I'm not saying people who use cotton wool are dirty morons

[Thinkingofausername1]

Do you know what wax they are using. I would suggest hot wax next time if it's not all being removed. Unfortunately some salons only think about time/money and not the clients needs. Why I ended up working for myself!!

[ZilphasHatpin]

Why do adult men not get the grief about looking like prepubescent boys when they shave their facial hair? Or people telling them it's actually more hygienic to keep a beard?

[ZilphasHatpin]

whether you like it or not you are insinuating that those of us who don't remove are dirty and smelly. Stop it.

How about no! I will not stop explaining my own experience of my vulva. Do you understand the difference between "I feel cleaner without hair than I do with hair" and "people who don't shave are dirty"?

Say it feels nicer or it's more comfortable for you or it's for sexual gratification but stop implying that natural fannies are revolting and unwashed

No-one implied that.

[havingabadhairday]

I don't get the feeling cleaner during periods thing. I've tried it and just found I was a LOT more likely to leak, but I do have heavy periods. Does it only make a difference if you have lighter periods?

[TittyGolightly]

I'm all for creation not evolution...

Explains the exceptionally low baseline.

[TittyGolightly]

Humans have lost body hair because of the climate and the fact that we now wear clothes. The hair that remains in there because it's purpose is to trap scent which may be attractive to a potential partner. Our evolution has taken hundreds of thousands of years. A relatively modern trend to remove hair won't be reflected in our biology for centuries (if at all, because it's not something that benefits everybody).

[tinkerbellone]

I was slightly mortified that The beautician had to 'trim' me because it was 'so mattered'.
Must remember to give my jungle a trim and a brush.

[Ineedmorelemonpledge]

Ha ha ha so now not only do we waxers want to look like prepubescent children, forced to do so by our bullying porn obsessed partners, we also present a smelly minge to the beautician and probably tell her to get down there and stop complaining.


Priceless!

😂😂😂

[GladAllOver]

tinkerbellone :)

[tinkerbellone]

I'm all for creation not evolution...and that's a whole new thread

[GladAllOver]

That's not true. If something doesn't disadvantage breeding it won't evolve away.
Then please explain why in the course of our evolution from apes, females have lost almost all of their body hair, but kept it in certain small places. Those places must have a positive function, or they would have gone too.
That's not to say of course that it's wrong to remove the hair as a personal choice. We do many other things against natural evolution of the species. This is a tiny one in comparison.

[isupposeitsverynice]

Haha do you know I had forgotten I wrote that at the end and you're right that was offensive and I apologise.

I just think it's not that hard to be careful about the way you describe what you're doing and why so that you can be sure you're doing it in a way that doesn't denigrate other women's choices. I do think as well it's something that does need a certain level of analysis and scrutiny for the sake of our daughters - I'm sure we can both agree that whatever our own preferences, it's completely unacceptable that young girls be given the message that their natural state is somehow dirty and not good enough. This isn't the fault of women who choose to remove their hair for their own comfort but in conjunction with increasingly mainstream porn imagery I think we have to be very careful about the messages we are (possibly inadvertently) sending to girls and younger women.

[VioletHornswaggle]

I totally get the better feeling of being bald esp with sex, but for some reason I would feel odd going for a smear or somesuch all bald. In addition, if bald and having a pee, it never shoots straight and always gets everywhere. Discharge etc spreads about and feels uncomfortable and I get ingrown hairs which I have to dig out and it looks unsightly. So I now trim the sides and top with a razor and leave it at that. I don't have loads of pubes though so maybe that's why I am not bothered to do more.

[FreddoFrog]

Just to add....I got a bikini wax when Travelling in Brazil. What I would consider a usual bikini line wax - ie just on the sides so you could wear your bikinis, not a Brazilian/Hollywood- they called that, 'an English' 😉

[Kikikaakaa]

I'm talking about heavy blood loss FYI. With clots

[Kikikaakaa]

I don't think that about piss either to be honest.
It's easier for me to clean myself up but then bear in mind, on a weekend like this one I might have been to the toilet every half an hour to wipe up because the flow is heavy. It does just seem easier to sort it all out when it's smooth (to me. Mrs I Am Very Dark and Hairy)

[GotToGetMyFingerOut]

Also just to point out I wasn't the one who said anything about piss etc. My pee goes down the toilet no where near where my pubes would be.

[GotToGetMyFingerOut]

Isuppose the bit where you called people dirty fuckers perhaps!!

We are talking about ourselves personally maybe your growth Isn't as thick as other peoples maybe your period isn't as heavy is that hard to understand. No one is saying you need to do it. People who are saying it makes sex better mean it personally. We have experienced both ways. That's great if you don't need to do it for that reason. i literally don't care what another woman does as long as they are happy, so why does it bother you!

[Kikikaakaa]

I don't like where my pubes grow or the type of hair I have. It is coarse

I have a lot of period problems (which require surgery) and
I like the feeling of being smooth underneath as it pulls the hairs with tampons and towels and fiddling around.

I don't care what a man thinks about it. I like oral sex and to me it feels nicer smoother

Surely we can all do with our body hair what we wish?

[minipie]

I have only met one man at university (so 18-22 year olds) who even considered that I might not want to remove all my pubic hair. Every other man has expected, demanded, or told me to be bald.

So in my age bracket, it very very much is considered the norm. In fact, I've heard on numerous occasions, people saying they would walk out of an intimate situation if a gal had a bush.

I weep for my daughters.

[BartholinsSister]

It's pretty much a weekly thing, Pippa

[Pippa12]

trust mumsnetters to have full on nuclear war over fanny hair! Bloody hilarious