Should I say nothing?

[drunkandtired]

Trying to make it as basic as possible, but this is a facebook thing.

I am in a relationship and this guy (Ian) is in a relationship

Maybe a year ago we got chatting on PM, both of us have children the same age, thought nothing of it. We went to school together, reconnected on facebook type thing.

Roughly 10 months ago, he sent me a message replied and it turned sexual. I replied that I thought it was inappropriate, didn't want to know etc. I also told my partner. 8 months ago same thing again, he got the same reply.

At the time I thought of sending the messages to his girlfriend, but had second thoughts.

Just got through a new message, roughly the same. Girlfriend is newly pregnant (12 weeks I think) and he has just proposed.

The first one I ignored thinking he was drunk, the second one, I admit I should of blocked him. This one, I am now thinking prick, but do I let her know?

[Nanna50]

This really is a non dilemma, you know so little about them but you think it's ok to stir up trouble? Why? You don't even know if it's him, it could be her trying to gauge your interest because she's seen his earlier messages.
Using the excuse 'because I would want to know' is bollocks, just delete, don't make a drama out of it.

[BoomBoomsCousin]

Chocolate I was implying she might want to wait to have children with a man she can trust rather than be tied to one she can't.

But the OP says they already have a child, so she's tied anyway, though if it's not the sort of thing she's prepared to stay with a partner over, she might feel she can't easily leave with a child and a newborn. So yes. abortion might be something she wants to consider to ensure the best outcomes for herself, her current child and any future children she might have. I certainly wasn't saying she would or should do so and I would think it is probably unlikely to influence someone who had wanted to get pregnant anyway. But then I trust women to make the choices that are best for them and their families given the best available information.

[ToffeeForEveryone]

I'd want to know, so I'd tell her.

[OpalFruitsMarathonsandSpira]

🙈🙉🙊

And also block him if you haven't already.

[MakeJam]

You're overthinking this. Just block him. And don't tell the GF either. It sounds like you unconsciously want to cause a little drama and upset their relationship.

[GnomeDePlume]

I would say that if you dont know more about them than you have put here then dont tell the girlfriend. You dont know if this is something he does to lots of people or something he has done just to you because you have a connection albeit loose one from when you were at school together.

[GahBuggerit]

does seem like youre enjoying it

just blocknhim and leave it

[RebelRogue]

I can't believe what a hard time OP is getting here. So all of you,if you were pregnant and engaged to be married to a bloke that did this you wouldn't want to know? Really?
And all the excuses that it might be her,or maybe he just did with OP due to a "connection ",like that makes it any better. Pathetic.
Some of you seem to even be blaming her for HIS behaviour.

[ElspethFlashman]

The answers to this thread are really weird.

No, it doesn't seem like the OP is enjoying it. No it's not her fault for not blocking him the first time . No, she isn't wondering if the GF could get an abortion.

OP, my opinion - ABSOFUCKINGLUTELY send her screenshots, before she starts putting non refundable deposits down on things.