To consider internet dating at a size 16/18

[user1487622505]

I had a baby 8 months ago but have been single for over a year. I'm not desperate for a relationship but I'm ready to start dating again. However, I'm not feeling great about my body. I had an hourglass-shaped size 16 body before ds was born and although I'm nearly back at pre-pregnancy weight I now have a belly complete with stretch marks and 'apron'. Is there any hope for me?! I could wait until I've lost more weight but no guarantee the belly will improve much. Part of me feels like the right person hopefully won't mind and part of me is terrified to try because I'm worried about rejection. Has anyone got any positive dating/love stories as a bigger woman? Or should I start saving for a tummy tuck?

[VelvetSpoon]

Agree with comments that dating is a bearpit. I did a lot of internet dating over several years - I was a size 14 at the time. I got told by several men I was too fat/ chubby/ clearly not sz 10, whatever. One charmer (when I sent a polite thanks but no thanks reply) said he loved big fat girls like me as they were normally desperate. I'm fairly busty so that often attracted horrendous comments too, far worse than any shit I've ever been subjected to in real life.

I try not to think about my OD experience, as much of it was truly horrific, I had excellent self esteem before it started, but I feel scarred by it all.

Sorry to be so negative! I should add that just when I was about to give up, I met my now DP on there, we've been together nearly 3 years and he really is the man I waited all my life to meet. And he couldn't care less what size I am.

[nursebickypegs]

I've been a size 16/18 all my life and I've met 3 men online who I had relationships with, one in married to now. If you want to lose weight, DO IT FOR YOU. Don't do it for love!

[joanslegs]

I've been a 14-16 mostly and felt at my most confident at a 16, which is when I did the best with OLD - because I liked myself and felt good - thats what you could focus on, if you feel good then that shines through - and you should :)

I'm huge at the mo, have drank and eaten my way through the last six months and don't like myself at all - I have recognise I'm not in a good place to date - until i can like myself again.

[SelfObsessionHoney]

I'm a size 18, did online dating, met a FWB who I had lots of lovely shagging with and then met DP who I'm currently 20 weeks pregnant with.

I couldn't give a flying fuck if someone thinks I'm fat, I used to care, but for some reasons I'm honestly not sure if I've just stopped caring, and it's liberating.

DP loves me for ME, he also thinks I'm rather bloody lovely looking, rolls, wobbly bits, cellulite and summer chub rub included!

[MommaGee]

Online dating here too at 18/20. Engaged within 6 months of first date, married a year later, toddler currently pretending to be asleep

Re OLD it can be a hard ride. Lots of chap dates, and doing POF which is free a fewean messages (the guy who called me a whale got a lecture on being a better example to his daughter), but similarly lots of hey sexy

Remember to always meet in public, meet someone know where you are and only use honest photos