My sister has been removed from an "abusive relationship" and her two children were due to be put under a care order UNLESS she stayed away from her partner.
She has some issues and has lied about her partner abusing her (although he is abusive to the children, particularly one of them who is now living with my mum, her choice). She is still in regular contact with her partner, taking one of the children to stay there every weekend without fail. She has been told that if she sees him or takes the children there that the children will be placed under an order.
Mum has said she will take on her son legally if she wants her to, she said no because then she will lose money (benefits). She's pushing for all kinds of diagnoses for him, ADHD, Autism etc in the hope she will be able to claim carers allowance for him.
The whole scenario makes me feel sick. The case with social services was meant to go to a conference last week but because she's "stayed away" they didn't do it.
She has said that when social services backs off she will take the child back from my mum, go back to him and both herself and her partner have said they will blame him everyday for being disloyal and speaking out about what was happening at home. She calls him idiot, c**t etc and I can't bare to think that she will be allowed to take him whenever she wants and subject him to abuse.
What can I do?
If I ring social services I can't prove that she's been going to him, or that she verbally abuses him or that she only wants him for the money.
I really can't see him go back there but I don't know what to do.
Thanks for reading.
AIBU?
To report sister to social services
ricecrispies16 · 30/01/2017 07:32
Firstly I'm surprised the SW has been around already and secondly dismissed it as malicious and told the service user/mum this quickly without talking to other involved parties- all of which takes more than a day realistically.
What school of Social work trained them. 
If you want your concerns taken seriously call the social work back and give your details. It helps to be able to come back and clarify issues. If you still don't think your concerns are being taken seriously you escalate it to their supervisor then head of service.
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rice I have been maliciously reported before and they told me who it was just so you are aware. Good luck 
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